It's not an everyday occurance but when we argue my husband becomes immediately verbally abusive. I have told him that I am not going to tolerate it and that I will leave but he continues to do it and I truly believe that he doesn't think it's serious at all. His 'apologies' are insincere and I feel he just does not care. He always has an excuse for his abuse e.g. "you always pick on me".
I have told him to call a local Domestic Violence Mens line to have a chat. Not sure if he will but if he doesn't and refuses to get help what should my next step be? We have kids so I need to try and make this work.
Your husband is abusive and it probably doesn't happen a lot because you do not push him to that point often. Abusers always deny their abuse and try to turn it around on the victim. It is all a part of the manipulation to break you down. You should go to couples therapy, if he is willing. If he is not willing to try and change then he wont. Then you will have to decide whether or not you can put up with it. He is the one that needs to try and make things work and change not you, you are not the problem. He is.