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October 26th, 2009
My girlfriend for 6 years doesn't love me anymore and wants to be left alone for 2 weeks already. I love her so much and it hurts that she doesn't feel the same way anymore. Everyone is telling me to not call her, txt her, but everyday is so emotionally painful i cant eat right and have been taking sleeping pills to pass time. We've gone through so much i don't want to lose her. I have so many remembrances of her. 6 years is a long time for me and I never stopped loving her. She has stopped loving me because she says I am smothering her as of now. She lives in her own apartment. I live at home with my mom and sis. we are about 40 min away from each other and I have been traveling like this for 6 years everyday if you round it off. Now she wants to break ties with me and it's hard. I've even gone to her apartment even though she didn't invite me just to hear what is happening inside from the outside of her door and then go home. It gave me a sigh of relief doing so a few times already. I really miss her. Please help.
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J3nnyuk
replied November 1st, 2009
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Has she given you the impression she never wants you back? If not then maybe give her a little time to get her thoughts together then try text her and tell her your sorry if she thought you were smothering her it was only because you love her so much etc....and ask her if there is any chance you two could meet for a coffee...maybe talk about it...good luck...Jenny
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jpinlac
replied November 1st, 2009
Thanks so much for the reply.
I was told that I can't force her to change her feelings and I should give her time. I care about her so much that i'm willing to emotionally struggle and give her all the time she wants.

Really great advice!
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mx125
replied November 10th, 2009
Get out while you can. Same EXACT thing happened to me and it sucked. It's over. The more you wait = wasting your time and giving her what she wants (a choice between mystery guy #1 or you). Girls are needy and someone has to be around for comfort/pleasure. They won't leave a relationship that's lasted that long to be alone. She will string you along for awhile until she is comfortable with breaking all ties. That way she always will have a backup plan if her decision fails. Best advice is go out with your buddies and have NO regret on meeting new women. I finally did that after a 4 months of B.S. an ended up with a bombshell that now makes her so jealous. Your better off and you will thank urself in the end and learn alot from someone you thought you knew so well. Always trust your gut.
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kristyear
replied November 10th, 2009
Mybe your girlfriend feel bored in your relationship...for 6years you've been together, sometimes love fades...u must do something new and exciting for your gf. Give her a time and space to think and when shes yours, she will come back
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starship33
replied November 11th, 2009
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mx125, you should like she really hurt you. everyone situation is different, some people do reconcile. It's always two sides to a story.
Giving her space is a good thing. if she doesnt come around you can continue on with your life.
A breakup and being in love with someone always stings. that time shall pass, and your heart will heal.
If she says that your smothering her, next time give her space with calling her and seeing her.
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