|I have the same situation, deeply in love (almost married) couple, where the girlfriend needs extremely long periods of isolation due to severe social anxiety. many women have social anxiety, and the in-doorsy type always has it the worst. It leads to more isolation and therefore, more anxiety in social situations.
She takes adavan and some others, but she refuses to take a certain medication that nearly cures her social paranoia because it makes her gain weight. She hardly ever does the house hold chores, a complete sociopath, she's always depressed, hates her job, has an addiction to marijuana and has a very long history of mental issues.. yet she's over the worst of them. She refuses to meet my family and now she sleeps in a different bed. but she loves me very deeply, sometimes more than other times, and she is telling the truth. The problem is, she behaves the same no matter what. It's like having nobody there period, but I care about her well-being, and all this makes me so depressed I don't even want to get out of bed. She hates that I care because it's something she assumes will always be apparent until the end of time.
My quality of work on the job has suffered greatly because of it too. In fact, I might get fired if I keep this up, but I feel weak and dead inside because I am faced with breaking up with someone I love so much I'll do anything for, and all for a seemingly shallow desire for human interaction and the warmth an actual, human relationship deserves.
The atmosphere is so cold I feel unwelcome in my own apartment.