I am 28 years old and my girlfriend is 24. About 1 year ago she was raped and beaten to near death by her ex and another man. She admits to purging for around 5-6 years . Her family is a military family and she was sent to a safe house while the police tracked down these 2 men. They have been in jail for about 3 weeks now and she has told me that she hasn't purged in around a month which i do believe, naive or not i trust her. She has a counselor and a nutritionist that come to where she is daily. 3 days ago she got a feeding tube put in which she isn't comfortable with and tells me i cant see her like this. Her father loves her but doesn't try to learn about what she is dealing with he just gets angry and tells her to just come home which is in Texas and we are in Michigan and that house is where she was attacked. Its so hard knowing that the woman i love doesn't want to see me though i try to understand. She has nightmares alot and every night i sit on the phone with her while she sleeps just so she knows im there. She recently called my dad and told him everything that was going on so i now have someone i can talk to but i thought maybe i would look for others who have dealt with similar situations and reach out for advice. I love her with everything i am and i only want whats best for her and i think im realizing that i may not know all the answers to that question. i have this empty feeling in my chest that doesn't go away. i just want to hold her but i cant. i cry almost daily and i feel guilty for wanting to hold my girlfriend because i know she is getting help. i apologize for rambling but i just dont know what to do and i am desperate for anything.