Hi I know there are many other similar post on this forum, but I thought I'd ask for advice specific to my particular situation. My girlfriend is 21 years old, I"m 25 (she is my first partner) and she has never had an orgasm. She has had other partners in the past and before we even engaged in any sexual contact she told me she has never climaxed; because she brought this up prior to our first interaction I'm very confident it isn't a story to protect my ego. We are reaching a point where we are very comfortable with our bodies and sexuality and because I've no experience with helping a woman reach climax I'm trying to enlist her help with pleasuring her. She tried to help me figure out what felt better to her, clitoral or vaginal stimulation (because she seems to have a bigger reaction sometimes to vaginal penetration) but she seemed really really uncomfortable with even touching herself and told me she never masturbates.
I REALLY REALLY enjoy going down on her and I've told her that and she get's really grossed out and almost guilty knowing that. She actually told me that she hates subjecting me to "that" and I keep assuring her I enjoy it, and that her vagina is a clean healthy and nothing to be ashamed of. I'm guessing that she has some kind of mental block that's holding her back from climaxing because I've brought her to what I assume is the very edge, body stiffening and shaking, grabbing and squeezing my arm to the point where bruises are left and she makes all kinds of noises, but then she just kind of calms down with out ever reaching.
If anyone feels like they have any information, suggestions, or similar experiences that could help us figure out how to give her an orgasm we would greatly appreciate it. I don't want to put pressure on or stress her out about climaxing because I know that could just make the problem worse, but I do love her very much and would like nothing more than to be able to make sex feel as amazing for her as she does for me. Thanks