My girlfriend doesn't enjoy sex. She also doesn't masterbate successfully to make herself enjoy it at all. How do I help her enjoy sex longer if she doesn't enjoy masterbating by herself? She looks at me like I'm suppose to solve all her sex problems. We've been together for over a year. When we attempt sex I can see that she is getting upset, which results in me feeling bad and that ends up killing my sex drive. We try to talk it over, but the same results happen each time. She does get turned on but that doesn't last very long becuase the act of sex brings her down. Oral sex is something we've been stuck on and i'm tring to move away from oral. Please Help!
Welcome to the ehealthforum. I am glad to help you out. Your girlfriend seems to be suffering from what is known as hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD) or decreased libido. One of the commonest causes of the same is fatigue.
The monotonous routine & daily burdens of life tend to decrease oneâs sexual desire. Oral contraceptives are also known to cause a decreased libido as one of their side effects but thatâs not very common. So check this possibility also.
Watching some erotic movies with your boyfriend and prolonging the foreplay can also help in ensuring the orgasm and improving your libido.
I sincerely hope this information helps. Take care.
My first wife didn't enjoy sex at all. She just couldn't get into it! We were married 17 years and never had intercourse. The best she could do was jerk me off!
Needless to say we divorced. She didn't masturbate, and was embarassed if I jerked off in front of her. She could never explain to my satisfaction why she didn't like sex. She just didn't like it!!!
Find yourself a girl who loves it as much as you do; don't wait 17 years like I did!
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