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Q: my girl cannot decide

asked by: genrai on March 21st, 2008

New User

ive been dating this girl for almost 3 months now and i know that she has a feelings on me too like what i feel for her but the problem everytime i ask her if she loves me she always say just forget her, to the reason that she really dont know when her heart heals beacause her boyfriend break up with her due to third party they are supose to get maried nxt year. in that case i undesrtand but everytime i answer ok ill try to forget you and keep on silence she strated kissing me and ask me if am angry? i ask her why you want me to forget you? she reflied to me saying ( maybe if i saw him again i dont know if i steel love him that much!!! but i dont wanna be with him again because of what he did to me!!!! then i told her clear your mind and am willing to wait she told me not to wait cause she dont know when she will be ready to love again. but!!!!!!!! everytime i kiss her she always kiss me back not just a kiss i mean kiss with feelings sometimes it last for 5 minutes. i dont know if she is afraid or if she just playing on me.......

Replies(7)

Fairy Godmother

replied on March 21st, 2008

Supporter

Move on

You are only picking at a scab and making it worse and worse. Its obvious this girl does not feel the same way about you, yet you are hanging in there and bound to get your heart broken. As I see it, she's already chipping little pieces of it away at a time. Let her go back to her old boyfriend if he will have her............There are way too many other girls out there who would apprecaite you and tell you they love you back. She can't make up her mind.......make it up for her. You should never play second fiddle in anoones band....Not when you could be First.......

Willa Weintraub

replied on March 24th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

SHe is obviously not ready for another relationship yet. It seems like she is trying to be strait up and honest with you but she wants to try and be with you? I don't know, if I were you I would back off.

Aunt WeeWee

replied on April 1st, 2008

Experienced User

In my opinion, 3 months in a lil too fast to be saying "I love you"! Jus my opinion. I was with a guy 8 months before we started saying "I love you" & our relationship lasted a lil over 2 1/2yrs. We been broke up 4 months cause he moved out of state, but now he is bck & we are trying to work things out btwn us! I wouldn't try to rush things, cause usually a relationship that starts fast, usually ends fast. If you really care about her, just let her know how you feel, but don't try to push it on her, cause you will only push her away!

Hope I was some help! Good luck with everything!

<3 Chrissy

Willa Weintraub

replied on April 1st, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

I personally do not think 3 months is too soon to say I loe you (not saying your wrong aunt WeeWee), this is my opinion. In 3 months you can spend enough time with someone to know you love them, I think that even 3 weeks is possible.

genrai

replied on April 3rd, 2008

New User

Aunt WeeWee wrote:

actually its helps a lot thanks to all of you guys, anyways i will not rush things bitween us and ill wait for her because i like her a lot and if she decided to return to her ex i must accept the fact that she is not for me..... thank you again guys. ill let you know if something good or bad happens. thanks aunt wee wee

Willa Weintraub

replied on April 3rd, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

Thats the way to look at it Smile

I always think that, if it doesn't work out with someone, it wasn't meant to be and there is still someone out there waiting Wink

Aunt WeeWee

replied on April 3rd, 2008

Experienced User

No Problem!!!! I hope everything works out! If not, just stay positive about the situation. "Whats meant to be will always find away!"

Just to clear things up, you can fall in love with someone in just one day, but I wouldn't say it to that person!

Good Luck!

<3 Chrissy

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