I have been dating my gf for 6 months now and i love her and she definitely loves me. at the beginning of our relationship all i really wanted was a somewhat normal high school relationship alott of sex and nothing serious. i knew she had sex before but i didnt really care cause there was no deep feelings then. we had sex for the first time with each other 3 weeks into our relationship and i knew that was moving to fast if we wanted it to last but niether of us expected to fall so hard. about three months into the relationship we started talkin about our previous partners and her number was 4.
i never asked farther than that until recently. i asked names places how many x's and what i found out hurt. the day i fell in love with her we were at her beach house and i just found out the exact place we were was where she had a one nite stand with some guy she was friends with her excuse was she was wasted. the thought of her being penetrated by someone else kills me. i know another guy shes had sex with and me and him got into once about it. she just told me that the only reason she had sex was because she wanted to feel like they had somethin special that wasnt there. she said "i never got why people said sex was so special and i never really felt anything special when i was doin it and it didnt even feel good" i asked her why she kept doin it then and she said i thought i would feel something when the right guy came along and the right guy was me. she says its different and special and feels great with me. it hardly seems special to me anymore knowing all that. how do i get over her being with these people? shes 16 is 4 too many partners in your opinion? i know i should just look forwrd and forget her past but i cant so please dont say anything like that. yes i am only 16 and "im too young to know what love is" but dont tell me that either. this has been the reason for all our fights and i actually told her she was a tramp and thats how i feel about her now. but even if thats the case i want her and she still wants me. i know ima jerk for tellin her that so dont rply to this just to insult me ok. i need a way to get over this feelin of hurt i have. we never use condoms have had sex over 300x and the thought of her with someone else still really just kills me. i pace the floor thinkin about this at nite. i cant even look at her anymore, when i look at her all i see is a tramp. no, 4 is not alott of people for a adult but shes 16 and started havin sex at 15. i need advice how to get over this. i dont want to break up with her either but i can never think about her without feelin hurt and angry.
im 20, a girl and have been with my partner for nearly 3 years, my partner is 24 and just like your partner has had sex other people, yes 15/16 is the age teenagers get curious and experiment pretty normal cant help you on the sexual partners part of the question although my partner told me his 1st time was when he was 14 and he is a boy im guessing we are older than yous, so hes had more than 3/4 partners. The moment we actually went wrong is when we asked our partners that question I to know most girls hes had sex with and once I see them talking or even see one of them. Im in a crap mood, Although our relationship is great, have 2 kids, its just one of those things that will never go away but will ease in time, if you do love her you will eventually kinda get over it. Just remember she hasnt cheated on you and this happened all before she knew you or knew you would be apart of her life. You cant take back what she did its just one of those things you have to live with when you really love someone ie. i hate how my partner speeds, you just need to look at it as one of their "cons" because after all that is how yous guys started your relationship just a casual fling. Dont think about the past sexual relationships just think about how your her last and she from now on always be yours