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Q: My Father Passed Away Last Night :(
asked by: newmommy07 on March 20th, 2008
Active User, very eHealthy
Hi girls, my Father passed away. Those of you who dont know... hes been fighting for over 5 years of serosis of the liver, active hep C and cancer. The last four days I've been with him at his side, 2 in the hospital and 2 at his house. I'm in complete shock and it hasnt hit me real hard yet. I'm thankful I got the time to tell him what I wanted to. I told him (even though he couldnt speak) everything I wanted to, from telling him I forgive him for anything hes done to upsset me & vise versa, to bringing up old classic family memories to tellling him I understand that hes leaving me and that I understand if he has to leave me from this world into a new world of eternity with our Lord and Savior. I'm making a tribute album of songs for him for his celebration of life get together. (since he diddnt want a funeral. he wants us to celebrate the good times, if that makes sense. so in his honor ima make the best of it. his g/f has angered me in this time of crisis because she did his willwhen he was all doped up on morphine and did it w/o including my brother and myself, w/o a notary either, so wasnt legal really. i know what my dad wanted cuz he told me 2 months ago (when he was normal, not on heavy doses of morphine) or so that he wanted us kids to have his house and to split his belongings. well she had him sign the papers w/o a legal person there to whitness and w/o us kids. she left us nothing but some navy metals, pictures, 1 tv that barely works and a couple of clocks. she told my bro he might get some tools of my dads. well im over the angry part about that, its just the principle im mad about now. i mean that wasnt his wishes at all, but if she wants to be greedy, then so be it. she can have it all, im not a material person, wasnt raised that way. i just dont understand how someone could be that way and say they loved and honored him. she had no respect for his wishes. so long as i get his medals and pics im good to go. im just happy that my dad isnt suffering anymore and that i got the chance to say my goodbyes. he is with the lord now and i WILL see him again one day. there is a lot of shady things this woman has done to me and my family toward the end of my dads days, very upsetting. ill post sometime when i might want to vent, or maybe not cuz it dosnt really matter anymore. i just wanted to update you all. been the roughest thing ive had to go thru and will continue to go thru. im still in shock but i know when it hits it will be really hard. thank god i have my 2 month old son to keep me going. my dad was 50 years old. Sad
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tinkinpink84
replied on March 20th, 2008
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aww im sooo sorry to hear that, we are here if u ever need to talk!
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newmommy07
replied on March 20th, 2008
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thankyou, im sure i will be posting a lot on this tragic event in my life as ill be going thru a ton of emotions. some might be rants just so i feel im heard and so i can get some bricks lifted off my chest. ive held in a lot of things during this difficult time. a ton of posts i want to make in time (as i cope) will be about the good times and how i feel about him going home to our father and savior. i loved my dad with all my heart and always will, hope i can be 1/2 the mother of my newborn (2 month old) son (1st child) as my dad was a father to my brother and i. may my father look down on me and smile, im going to make him proud. =)
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Jules
replied on March 20th, 2008
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Am sending you hugs and gentle thoughts.

Come To Me

God saw you getting tired
and a cure was not to be
so he put his arms around you
and whispered,
"Come to Me"

With tearful eyes we watched you
and saw you pass away
and although we loved you dearly
we could not make you stay.

A Golden heart stopped beating
hard working hands at rest.
God broke our hearts to prove us
he only takes the best.
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rosejackson
replied on March 20th, 2008
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I'm so sorry for your loss
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Willa Weintraub
replied on March 20th, 2008
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I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you stay strong.

Just to let you know, the papers that she had him sign are not legal so she will get nothing. All his belongings will go to his next of Kin. It is only legal when you go to an attorney and have the papers drawn up.

you need one of these too
http://www.idph.state.il.us/public/books/L ivin.PDF
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Mabel
replied on March 20th, 2008
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So sorry for your loss.
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tigresacanela24
replied on March 20th, 2008
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I'm sorry for you loss.

I wanted to let you know that a will doesn't have to be drawn up by an attorney to be legal. I don't know what state your dad lived in but in pa it doesn't even have to be witnessed to be legal. That may not be the case in your state tho. Just to let you know, your dad's gf isn't going to get everything right away, usually there are probate proceedings in court where the court will determine the validity of the will. you can bring up any concerns you have with the will then. you'd have to check the laws of your state though, i only know how things work in pa. most lawyers will give you a free consultation so you can ask questions and determine what you need to do. i'm sorry that you have to deal with all this right now on top of how you already must be feeling with your dad's passing.
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Willa Weintraub
replied on March 20th, 2008
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I thought it was like that in every state. that blows!
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ilovemyfishies81
replied on March 20th, 2008
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so sorry for your loss Sad
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Ayrshire-lass
replied on March 20th, 2008
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Jules wrote:
I'm so sorry for your loss. Am sending you hugs and gentle thoughts.

Come To Me

God saw you getting tired
and a cure was not to be
so he put his arms around you
and whispered,
"Come to Me"

With tearful eyes we watched you
and saw you pass away
and although we loved you dearly
we could not make you stay.

A Golden heart stopped beating
hard working hands at rest.
God broke our hearts to prove us
he only takes the best.



this prayer was said at scotts funeral.
** im actually crying now**

my prayers are whith you and your family
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Jules
replied on March 20th, 2008
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Ayrshire-lass wrote:
Jules wrote:
I'm so sorry for your loss. Am sending you hugs and gentle thoughts.

Come To Me

God saw you getting tired
and a cure was not to be
so he put his arms around you
and whispered,
"Come to Me"

With tearful eyes we watched you
and saw you pass away
and although we loved you dearly
we could not make you stay.

A Golden heart stopped beating
hard working hands at rest.
God broke our hearts to prove us
he only takes the best.



this prayer was said at scotts funeral.
** im actually crying now**

my prayers are whith you and your family


Oh I'm so sorry! It is beautiful.
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Zanny
replied on March 20th, 2008
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I'm so sorry for your loss Sad
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hopefulmjz
replied on March 20th, 2008
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I'm sorry to hear about your father. Sad
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Lilly Ivy
replied on March 20th, 2008
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I'm so sorry Traci Crying or Very sad At least he was comfortable at home when he went... I'm here if you need to talk.
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michelle1981
replied on March 20th, 2008
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My condolences Sad
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newmommy07
replied on March 20th, 2008
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Jules wrote:
I'm so sorry for your loss. Am sending you hugs and gentle thoughts.

Come To Me

God saw you getting tired
and a cure was not to be
so he put his arms around you
and whispered,
"Come to Me"

With tearful eyes we watched you
and saw you pass away
and although we loved you dearly
we could not make you stay.

A Golden heart stopped beating
hard working hands at rest.
God broke our hearts to prove us
he only takes the best.


omg this made me cry, i love it! I'm going to write it down and bring it to my dads celebration of life get together, thankyou for placing it here. so beautifully written.
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tiamccoy819
replied on March 20th, 2008
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I am very sorry your family will be in my prayers....
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*star*
replied on March 20th, 2008
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I cant even imagine what you are going through right now. I hope that you find comfort in knowing that he has gone on to be with the Father. He is in a better place. Celebrate his life. I hope you find peace, and I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
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Bratz72
replied on March 20th, 2008
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im so sorry too hear ....my thoughts are with u
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