your son is in your care.
you control whether or not you raise him or give him up for adoption, and clearly you want to raise him.
you do not have to be married to have and raise a child, its just something that everyone has been programmed to believe in our society.
your dad cannot control this decision for you. and if i were you, i would talk to your counsellor about this, because he or she will be able to help you even more with this situation, and also talk to your friends mother too, if this does end up going to court, you will have her as a witness that you are a fit mother.
the people in your life who know you best, your friend, friends mom and counsellor will be able to help you get through this and support you as well.
your dad has never had anything to do with you, so why he cares now is a shocker. just brush him off and if you have to cut off contact from him, that is what i would do.
but talk to your counsellor and friend and friends mother as to what you should do next.

good luck hun, you can get through this.

Yeah when he called I was in complete shock, I mean i haven't talked to him since i was 6.

Thanks,

your welcome hun, maybe he thinks because he was not in your life when you were a child that you will be the same way.
but you two are completely different people.
you can get throug this, dont let him rule your life now, your responsible for your actions and decisions.

Please don't do something like that inless you feel that's what you want to do and by the sounds of it you obviously don't. in my opinion and it's only my opinion you would miss your son terribly. If you love your son and wouldn't dream of giving him away you just tell your dada that.Fancy your dad saying that you after not even being around. sounds like you've had it very rough. you just show your little man all the love that a parent should. I bet you'll be a really loving mum becasue you've never had that and you know what you missed and what you should have had. take care hun, xo

wow who is your dad to tell you when he didnt even raise u keep your son dont put yourself through that ur 15 and doin a better job then a grown man obviously

I agree with the other posts, its your son hun, no one has the right to tell you to give him up. If you know in your heart its the right thing then it is no matter what, God will bless those who are doing what is right. Im telling you, Im not much of a religious nut, but when you ask for help it will be given. You can do this, and dont listen to anyone tell you that you cant, because they dont know

I like the others think that the decision is your to make re your son. And by the sounds of it, and very understandable too, you want to raise your son yourself. And good on you for wanting to do so.

Two bits of advise I will give you. The first is do NOT become pregnant again. It is much harder to raise two or more children by yourself. Use some sort of birth control or abstain from sex.

The second bit of advise, is to think well about your dad coming back into your life.

Now I may just be a romantic, but getting to know and spending time with your dad could be a very positive thing for both you and your son.

I hope that he respects your wish to raise your son yourself. If he does this is a sign that you and he may just have a good relationship.

But do take it slowly and find your way through the process of forming a relationship with your dad. That way if any signs appear that such a relationship would be upsetting and is not worth while persuing, will be recognised and you may not be quite as upset.

Take is easy and good on your for raising your son yourself. He sounds like is is lucky to have a good loving mum.

Regards,

JennyRobin

Jenny Robin,

Thanks. Im going to see my dad again in a couple weeks to talk about some things.
But im definitely gonna take it slow because i want to make sure im doing the right things and get to know him a little bit since he hasnt been around.

Thanks all of you,

-Morgan

Well, like the others said, it's YOUR baby, YOUR rules, and YOUR time that's being gave up to raise him. So long as you're doing the right thing raising your boy, and not worried about who's having what party when and where, and all that, and your son comes first, then you're all good. A mother's instinct is best no matter what the age is.
I think your dad is just worried about the stress that could be put on you, being you are a very young mother, and he is just scared for you, like any parent would be 'cause they know what it is like raising kids. He's just afraid for you because you are going to miss out on a lot of your own childhood raising your son. But that's where proving them wrong comes up..show them your son is your world. love your son unconditionally and fight, fight, fight, when you're threatened he will be taken from you. You seem very responsible for your age, and, in time, you'll find it all make you stronger and wiser.
Don't worry about what others think just as long as you know you're doing the right thing...Let your heart guide your knowlege.

I four father is not taking care of you or supporting you in any way he can not make that decision, even if he was more involved in your life, there are laws protecting you. Tell you father he is not wise doing this, "those who trouble their family inherit the wind"

u gona give ur son up 4 ya dad who aint bin there 4 years no dont do it

Well to begin with your dad cant make you do anything. Especially since its YOUR child...if parents cant MAKE their child get an abortion then your dad cant make you put your child up for adoption....especially since hes 10 mnths old.....what you should do is just stop talking to your dad for a few years and show him that you know how to raise your son. hes prolly just tellin u to give him up for adoption bcuz he had NOTHING to do with you for a long ass time

Yeah Thats what my friends mom said that i just need to stop talking to him for a while and show him how much of a good mom i can be!

morgan, who has legal custody of you?

My friend i live with's mom!