okay so i know this doesnt sound right but here it goes. So i live in a middle-upperclase family and i live a pretty normal life. But the only problem ive ever had was my dad. To me he is extremely embarrassing because of his height, he is like 6'10 and his weight which i do not know but he is very obese. From maybe kindergarden up ive tried to hide him from my friends and school and recently my girlfriend who i dont ever plan on introducing to him. The only way for me to be social is with my mom who is completely normal weight and everything. Also my dad has a huge temper and uses his overwhelming size to intimidate people. To me i would much rather have a normal parent becuase everything would be so much easier. I have told my mom about my issues and she understand what i am saying, and sometimes feels the same way i feel about him. Any advice on what to do with him?
Hi Sockr4, I think there may not be a quick fix solution for your problem. Concerning your father's obesity, there are usually contributing factors involved like stress, emotional issues, genetics etc which your father may need to overcome first, that is, if you wanted to assist, help or encourage him to better his current condition (maybe with your mom's help).
I do understand how this is a problem for you too, finding him embarrassing must be difficult. I doubt that you feeling embarrassed of your dad will change unless you can either focus on what makes you proud of him more and be happy with him as is or, tackle the problem and begin operation: Get Dad healthy.
It could be a great bonding experience for you guys to exercise, eat healthy or play sport together. Maybe that would also help him to release some of his anger ("huge temper"). No doubt there is probably more to why your dad is in his current physical state, but this could be a positive start to a happier and healthier father son relationship. All the best.