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my boyfriend left me when he found i was pregnant

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hello i am a young mum and i was with a lad for over a year when i found out i was pregnant and when i told him that was the last time i saw him and am now 5 days away from my due date , but i dotn get why he left me as we were very happy we were best friends ,and now he dosent even reply to my text messages andf just pretends i dont even exist , i just want to talk to him and see from his piont of view but how am i supposed to do that if he wont even listen ?plz help
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replied June 6th, 2011
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Would it be worth speaking to his mum about how you are feeling and what you would like from your ex boyfriend?

See if she is able to set a meeting up somewhere familiar and local to you both and asking someone you know and trust to come along for moral support.

If he refuses to come along then you are probably better off without someone like that in your life. But on the other hand he might be there when the baby is born if you contact him when you go into labour.

If your ex boyfriend doesn't want to be part of his son/daughters life then you'll be a great mum without him but don't punish his family for his mistakes.

If his family ask to see the baby then let them to it's not fair on the baby or his family to lose out on getting to know and spend time with their grandchild. This might work in your favour as your ex boyfriend might be around to see your child together and realise what he's missing.

You never know until you try. Good luck hun, all the best. And don't forget you'll make a great mum whatever the outcome with you and your ex. Smile
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replied June 6th, 2011
i cant his mum hates me and thats the only family he has except ones that live up country , me and her have never got on , i just want him to listen and c from my piont of view how hard this is

thanks though yeah cant wait too have my baby i know this wont come between me and my baby i love him already Smile
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replied June 14th, 2011
Sweetie, I'm sorry but I don't think he cares how hard this is for you. He doesn't want this baby and he's hoping if he ignores it, you and the baby will go away. He's not going to be with you. He's probably not going to be in your baby's life.

You can be an awesome mom to this baby even without the father. Once it's born, I would send a picture of it to him and one to his mom. Other than that, there's nothing you can do to make him care. In the US, we can put them on child support, whether they care or not. If you can do that, I suggest you do.
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replied October 20th, 2011
in same boat
Hi. I am in the situation you were in. I had a son with my b.f and after only 6 weeks back together I found out I was pregnant. He kicked us out to the streets. I am 42 and should've been more careful but can't change what's happend. I am 19 weeks pregnant now and just trying to make it for my kids. I pray and have faith that all will turn out ok. Its been extremely hatd. Broke and worrying.
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replied October 24th, 2011
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at this point you already know he is a jerk!

so the best advice is : delete him from your life completely because hes always gonna be a jerk
and youll have tons of aggravation from him
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replied October 24th, 2011
Im in the same situation i was with my bf for 6 years and as soon as i found out i was preg he left me and now he has completely cut me won't talk to me and acts like i don't exist he already has a new gf that moved in straight after i moved out.

It is hurting me so badly but there is nothing that we can do to change their minds, if they are good men they stay around if they are assholes they leave and not worth our time. i wouldn't even send him a pic of your baby I'm not going to bother why should we they don't deserve it!

Yes it hurts so badly trust me but I'm hoping it will get better in time.
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replied July 17th, 2013
Addressing All Women
i have so much hatred for you worthless women that never get the abortion it is like you enjoy screwing with a man's life and your own. If he says he does not want kids then don't try to get pregnant you dumb women. i pray that you creatures stop polluting the world with this filth called children. it makes me sick
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replied September 29th, 2013
Look who's talking.
Actually it's people like you who don't have the balls to own up to your responsibilities that is corrupting the goodness of this world. A baby is always a blessing. People like you who's old enough to know what's wrong and what's right but insist on doing the wrong thing just because it's what's convenient are pathetic excuses for human beings. I hope you sleep soundly at night.
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replied September 29th, 2013
Actually it's people like you who don't have the balls to own up to your responsibilities that is corrupting the goodness of this world. A baby is always a blessing. People like you who's old enough to know what's wrong and what's right but insist on doing the wrong thing just because it's what's convenient are pathetic excuses for human beings. I hope you sleep soundly at night.
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replied September 29th, 2013
Actually it's people like you who don't have the balls to own up to your responsibilities that is corrupting the goodness of this world. A baby is always a blessing. People like you who's old enough to know what's wrong and what's right but insist on doing the wrong thing just because it's what's convenient are pathetic excuses for human beings. I hope you sleep soundly at night.
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replied October 7th, 2013
Wow. I know you might care for this guy, but his behavior has proven he is worthless.

He was all willing to have sex and fun with you. What sort of man abandons a woman like this? The guy has no morals and no sense of responsibility, and most certainly does not deserve to play the role of father. His behavior in my opinion is absolutely inexcusable.

You need to get over this prick of a guy, and concentrate on your baby. Find someone better.

Ignore the nasty comments from the idiots above, they are clueless fools.
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replied October 13th, 2013
he is responsible for your child go to police he is father of ur baby and should care him/her
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