Sorry to hear that it didn't work out! Things happen for a reason- would you really want to stay with someone that doesn't want to be with you? That would be worse- if you ask me! There are many people out there looking for a companion. He just wasn't the one for ya

It will be alittle tough at first- I remember breaking up with my 1st boyfriend- it was hard- he was my first too. But I can honestly say, time is the best medication! Invest it with yourself- or your family/friends. You will move on

BTW-- what is a UTI?

Hope you feel better- Yettie

Oh, my goodness! When I broke up with my first love, my world just fell apart! This was several years ago, and I can still remeber that devastating pain. My heart really goes out to you, my love. Hang in there, and remember: No one has the right to treat you like this. You want a bf that adores you. Not some guy that does not appreciate a lovely, sensitive thing like yourself.

Thank you for your replies. I kept trying to reach out to him so we could try to fix our relationship. He finally told me the truth as to why he didn't want to work it out. He was supposed to come with me to my aunt's house on Saturday. He told me at the last minute that he couldn't come, and that he was going shooting with his dad. Then, the next day I told him that I didn't really trust him anymore because he kept cancelling our plans, and that I didn't like that he was going out with this other girl. He made me feel like it was MY fault that it was ending by saying that I was too reserved and all this crap. I of course wanted to try to make it right, so I kept reaching out to him. He finally told me the truth via email on tuesday night. He didn't go shooting on saturday. He went dancing with HER. He said it wasn't really dancing, it was more grinding, and that there was hardly any space between them. He said he also had a necklace of hickey's on his neck. He also told me (on tuesday) that he did marijuana and mushrooms regularly from age 15-21 (and I met him when he was 21! He is now 22). He also told me on tuesday that he is bisexual with a strong preference for women. I feel like such an fool for trusting him, and letting him take my viginity. He lied to me and cheated on me. I feel better knowing that I can talk to people about this.

Thank you for writing to me and for listening.

Yetti--UTI=Urinary Tract Infection. The doctor thinks that it was because I was sexually active. He told me that it helps to urinate after sex to flush out the bacteria.

He sounds like a player...

I'm really sorry to hear that. But i think that he wasn't really willing to be with you for ever. You want to know what i think? I think you're such a nice girl. I mean you felt so special next to him that you gave your virginity to him even though it was your first love and ya met in a chat site.
I think you will find a guy who will apreciate you. I'm one of them myself who feels that when a girl gives her virginity to a guy means they're really special and they disurves everthing that i can give them because i know what loosing it means to girls like you, its like a bond, the lucky guy must be so special to that girl so she can loose her to him But their's alot of boys like me and even better . I didn't wanted you to keep thinking about him if i were a relative of yours. Just think it was the best for both of ya, special for you. Why i say this? well it's because after he met a another girl on match.com, he just said "their were friends". and "its a site to meet friends". but he met you there....right?.... so i think is better that you and him left each other because imagin if he would've stay with you while being with her. I hope i'm right and i hope my advice helps you.


Take care Penpen.
Your really special, and theirs someone out there for you.

its crazy how guys can just get up and go right when they find out your pregnet unless there looking foward to having a family my babys dad left cause he was tryin to say it wasnt his he was there but after that he left

So sorry for what you are going through - just remember, TIME heals all wounds!!!

Um, hun. . She isn't pregnant.

It sounds like this guy lied from the beginning. He wasn't worth it. Yeah, it's painful that he took something away from you that you could never get back. I lost my virginity to a married man that was twice my age and I totally regret it now. He took advantage of me just like this guy took advantage of you. And to break up over an e-mail? That's crazy. Sounds like this guy just didn't have the balls to stick up to you. You'll find the right man. Just don't rush things. I don't believe in "born-again virgins" but just because you've lost your virginity, doesn't mean you'll have to sleep with every guy you date. If guys really love you, they'll understand if you don't want to "jump his gun" right away. Take things slow. It'll happen.

I'm so sorry. I just broke up with my boyfriend this weekend and I'm completely devastated. It should be easier to get over a complete jerk (which is what your guy sounds like) who treated you poorly and wronged you so, than a really good, nice guy that it simply didn't work out with.

A few nice gestures does not a good guy make! Remember, there are probably thousands of girls out there that are devastated, depressed, lost and going through the same thing or at least another flavor of the same thing. And even if there aren't thousands, you can be sure that there's at least one other. I really feel your pain... and am trying to think about how to pick up the pieces.