I am in some serious need of advice... I will try and keep this short.
Me and my ex have been involved with each other for a total of 3 years, but were together officially for over a year out of those 3 years. He just broke up with with me because he said i didn't show him any appreciation and that it became hard over the past few weeks to commit to me because I seemed like I was not bothered. But over the past few weeks i have had some serious family problems and personal issues, so I've just been really sad and thats clearly affected our relationship, which it shouldn't have. Also he told me that, he felt that he was living two different lives because none of his friends or family know were going out because we started off as friends with benefits. He said he doesn't think we will work out, even though he said he loves me, wants to be with me, loves being with me and doesn't want to split up but thinks its for the best. He also said he doesn't know if there is a solution to the problems and feels like everything is messed up. I love him so much, and whilst it has only been 4 days, i'm finding it so hard. I said bad things when he was splitting up with me (i said i hated him and that i thought he was full of s@&). He cried when he was splitting up with me and he never cries, he text when i left saying i had made him a better person and that he thanks for that and that i am amazing. I responded saying thanks and the same to him too. He said when it ddoesn'thurt so much, we should go out for drinks, which i responded yes that would be nice.
I'm so confused, I don't know what to do. I feel like its completely over, but I don't understand why he wants to go for drinks. I want him back and the reality of it is that I don't think he does. Do i give up or just move on and I don't know how to do that. Please give me your advice.
You seem to be in a complex situation but one thing is sure that every relationship goes through ups and downs and you would be the best judge to analyze your relation.
If he cares for you,loves you,understands your situation well,is loyal then you can consider going for it.But do take the decision after evaluation of all the points.
At one time of point some misunderstandings can be present in relationships but try to look each and every aspect.You can go with him for a drink and then take a decision accordingly.
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