I don't think you're wrong about being upset at all. Drugs are something you don't want near a child, during or even after pregnancy.

But being that I'm only 17,
I don’t know what other advice to give other than to sit him down and have a nice calm talk. You need to make him understand that its not good for his child to grow up watching a father doings drugs; it’s not something that’s healthy. Now that he's a father he needs to understand his priorities, one being that he must do what’s right for his child.

So, if he wont quit he has to do it else where, out and away from his kid.
Or maybe he might even want to seek some help, since I don’t know… if you’re willing to go so far as to sneak out in the middle of the night just for a smoke you might have a bit of an addiction?

Some information you might wanna know:

"Regular use of pot can lead to a host of serious physical and psychological problems, from panic attacks and impaired judgment to delayed puberty and lung cancer.

Marijuana contains 150 different elements, including THC. When marijuana is smoked, THC flows through the bloodstream and interacts with different areas of the brain, such as the hippocampus, which is responsible for memory, and the cerebellum, which controls movement. The highest concentration of THC, however, binds with the middle of the brain. It is this binding that triggers the secretion of the feel-good hormone dopamine. This is what produces a feeling of mellowness or carefree numbness — a "high."

Because marijuana affects the hippocampus, the part of your brain that forms new memories, smoking it can inhibit new memory formation. That can be a serious problem if you're in school, trying to learn. **There have been no studies on the long-term effects of marijuana on child and adolescent brains, so the extent to which smoking pot permanently damages brain cells is unknown.**"

Ok so your pregnant and all your extra hormones might be stirring up things around ur house and causing fights. So during a fight hurtful things can be said that you both dont meant.

Meanwhile you are not overreacting. I also smoke and if I ever got pregnant with my boyfriend I would not allow smoking in our place.

Weed has a very distinctive smell that anyone can recognize..and since your living in apartments your really risking it. One of your neighbors could get a wild hair up their a$$ and call the cops on ya. They will see that your pregnant...and put you thru some sort of DFS. So long story short you can get your baby taken away from you too. Id sit down while you both arent fighting and talk about the consequences of this...and how his lying needs to end right now..

I dont think you are wrong at all...is it that more important that you and your unborn child? He needs to think about that. I mean how hard is it not to do it in the house? Hun you need to put your foot down a lil harder, he needs to realize that him doing in the house can effect you and your baby. I hope he finally listens to you...good luck!

You are not wrong...You are fighting for something bigger that is not being spoken...You are fighting for who you and he will be years from now...It is time for him to put his toys away and grow up...Chances are that if he does this now, he will continue...What bigger thing is there than a child's health...His own child at that....Does he want to raise a child in a home where this is tolerated?...He not only should stop for the baby, but for good....

I am not a stranger to drugs...Please understand, I am not meaning my husband or I, but I have raised three children...I know the facts of life....Get away from it...It can drag you to the pits of hell....The only way to do this is complete abstinence....I guess for the person hooked, it is the easy way out to feel good....That way you can keep your eyes closed and not see the world the way that it is....Real cop out...Instead, you look through a small slit rather than your eyes wide open....The only thing that this person who does this does not realize is that by doing this, he/she never is able to smell the roses.....And they do smell so good....

I wish you well,
Caroline