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I'm 16 and my boyfriend constantly asks me when we do have sex together of il do anal reason I usually say no is because everyone says it hurts like crazy

Lol I dunno if it's a myth or what but I automatically assume lol it probably does

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replied February 9th, 2012
Hey Mastercheif142,

From experiience I will tell you, yes it hurts. It's uncomfortable and can FEEL like you are taking a dump on him (really)- Not sexy. But my fiance' loves it. I don't do it often at all, we try it every once in a while but most of the time it hurts so much we have to stop. But I know many females that have grown to love it after a while. If you are going to try it just make sure you have sufficient lubercation (not baby oil, lotion or vasceline). Just...make sure if you do it you do it right, with lots of lubercation, and wash his penis before you try vaginal sex again because you may get an infection if you don't.
Welp, Have Fun!
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replied February 9th, 2012
Lol Ty ya all my friends say its like getting pierced with an arrow Razz
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replied February 9th, 2012
Lol Uh Idk if I would say an Arrow that's kind of extreme, but it does. Just lub up really good and take it very slow. And Don't be scared to tell him to stop if you need to.
To this day I still have yet to accomplish this mission fully. I think the longest I've gone analy with him is like 10 minutes, and I was intoxicated so...
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replied February 9th, 2012
Lol I would suppose I mean especially if you have never done it in that area either
So I guess the key is just like lube it up really good and if it hurts to much then just say enough kind of scenario
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replied February 9th, 2012
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try it out before doing it with your partner.

experiment there while in the shower or something to see what its like.
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replied February 9th, 2012
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It is your body and your life. He should not be putting pressure on you to have sex at all.

And you did not even have vaginal sex yet and already he is moving on to something else. Have you asked him why?

You should decide for yourself when you are ready to have sex. And then your first steps are to have safe and healthy vaginal sex, not live up to one of his fantasies.

Anal sex is definitely not for everybody. It is painful and messy, especially the first few times. It does not matter how much you lube up and prepare. There are also some dangers to it

Once you are having sex, you take on a responsibility for your own health and well being. Are you willing to tell your mom that you want to see the doctor because you are bleeding from your behind after anal sex? If you are mature enough to be willing to do this, go for it. If not, hold off for a while longer until you are ready. There is nothing chasing you to have any type of sex. The stories you are hearing from your friends are very likely just that - stories. Not even close to everybody that is saying they are having sex is actually having sex at your age. So please be careful and only do it when YOU are ready.

PLEASE be very careful!
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replied February 9th, 2012
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I agree with KristiGraham.... Please do not let your boyfriend pressure you into doing something you are no comfortable with. I am not trying to scare/lecture you but what the previous posters didn't mention were the potential risks involved in anal sex or some of the unpleasent things that can occur during or after. I have done it, and it wasn't something that I particularly enjoyed but I do know people that do. I just encourage you to think this through after you do a little independent research and decide if it is worth it for you even if you are fortunate enough to avoid any physical harm have you thought of your repretation and how it could be negativily effected if things happen to get a little "messy" you may not want to carry on through HS with that kind of label. but your 16 and you are going to do what you please I just hope you think it through ... have fun and be safe.
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replied February 9th, 2012
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i know this is probably rare but it only hurt a little bit the first couple of seconds and then it stopped. i am probably just weird though but i wanted to make sure all the posts on here aren't negative Razz . im 16 as well.
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replied February 9th, 2012
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Have you asked him why anal sex is so important to him? The idea certainly isn't very appealing to me.
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replied February 10th, 2012
Lordy yes it hurts I've only done it once though...I don't know what guys obsession is with it b/c who wants s*** on their d**k lol..Anywho, i think you can get used to it just use lots of lube! And also, if you end up not liking it, your bf should be perfectly ok with that.
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replied February 14th, 2012
Erm okies when i guy asks me for anal i always say to him " anal? what are you gay or something? coz not being a being rude but like anal sex is for homosexuals or at least that's what i always thought?
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replied February 15th, 2012
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While it is true that anal sex is the only form of penetrative sex a gay couple can have, for heterosexual couples it is also a choice. Nothing is forcing you to have anal sex. If you are not comfortable with it, tell your partner that. He should respect your wish and not pressure you.

It is a practice that is increasing, especially amongst the younger generations. Most older women report trying it at least once in their lives.

Take care!
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replied February 18th, 2012
The time to do anything is when you want to.
It is not unusual for young males to be sexually selfish. Some have way less empathy than physical hunger...some are simply seeing every new thing as part a rite of passage, as if it will get them to their mature masculinity more quickly.

On the other hand, whatever anyone tells you about any part of sex is, likely as not, what they tell themselves to avoid new experiences, or being judged for being 'different' or 'ewwwww!'.....although some reports from folks who have tried it out (liking it or not) are as likely to be honest as not.

The best information is what your own desire and body tell you. If you are curious about it, look for stories about people who took their time and found out that they did, or didn't like it. Decide if you want to try some preparatory steps and self-play, so that you can get more familiar with your feelings, and see if any desire awakens.

If you don't discover curiosity and desire for it, then 'just doing it' would only be to serve someone else's curiosity and desire. Is that the kind of relationship you want ?

Then there is relationship-economics: if he is not empathetic, or equally interested in your feelings as your body, or supportive of you having power over your own life and body, then this is not going to be a lasting relationship. If so, you may want to limit your risks and investments in it.

If you are a no, then say no.
If you are a 'not now', say not now.
If he demands an explanation, or keeps prying, then that is bad.

If you are afraid of him withdrawing, or going away, or anything that would make you betray your own desires and self-control, then this is an opportunity to build your character.

When you sense you may betray yourself, that is the time to face these fears, get moral/emotional support, and draw courage from role-models and advisors and stand your ground.

Facing the risk of abandonment in order to keep your self-respect will be a major building block of your self-love and your power to help yourself and others.

I hope (at least)parts of this have been helpful.
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replied February 18th, 2012
Just say no simple ... i don't men who want anal to me it's allien!
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replied February 18th, 2012
Just say no simple ... i don't get men who want anal to me it's allien!
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