I've been going out with this guy for 4 and a bit years. I cheated on him, lied to him, and then got better and worked really hard to keep this relationship going. I had an abortion early on in the relationship and then had to give up a baby a year and a half ago, he now absolutely hates my guts and treats me like caca (they were both his kids!). In June this year, I had a miscarriage and told him that I dont want to sleep with him anymore. When I was leaving the country, I went to see him so say bye and he said that we should do it cuz it would be the last time and I said i didn't want to. He said we had to so I let him. I can't break up with him because he would give my parents some stuff of us and my parents are old and if they saw it, it would break them. I've left there and am in another country. He's still in the same town as my family. When I first left, he didn't bother about talking to me and things, and I know he's seeing someone else now.

Anyway, I met a guy here who is absolutely amazing. Seriously! He's really shy and he likes me but he's not sure I like him so he's nervous about the whole thing. But I really want to go out with him but don't want to hurt him. The guy back at home emailed me and told me he'd had it with me and to send the money I had promised him before I left! And so I thought it was over and sent the money and that was it! I didn't hear from him. Now that people here know I'm single, he's been calling and emailing but really randomly. He hates me - he told me that - so why won't he leave me?! Sorry this question is long but I need to know. Please help!