A few days ago, my best friend told me that she has been making herself throw up for the past two months. I've always known that she had bad self esteem and a poor self image.I always tried to help her and listened to her talk about anything going on with her, but I never considered she might be bulimic. Her and her boyfriend had been having a lot of relationship problems over the past few months, and he finally broke up with her a few weeks ago. I think that this is making everything worse for her, but I know that it probably isn't the only source. My friend made me promise not to tell anyone, but I think I need to. I'm really scared for her and I don't think she knows how badly she's hurting herself. What do I do?
hi, i know that pronlem my best friend is belimic (after stationg off anarexic) and in denal. your friend has made agood start by admiting the problem to you that is a big step. you need to be their for her through the strugle which she is in, it will not be easy far you ether but stick by her. you need to encurage her to speek to her Docter or to see a chouncler about the emotions underling the problem. it may well take severl moths of encuragmet to get to this point. you will only need to brake your promis if she becomes a danger to herself, ether she becomes dangurasly underwaght or she begins to do other forms of selfharm. this should be a last resort if you can get here to seek help now it will better in the long run but it will br difficult.
I'm not one to talk....but I would say you should tell someone. I know if I were her, I would be pretty pissed that confidentiality had been broken, but you sound like you are genuinely concerned and wish the best for her, and bulimia is not something that should be left alone. Bulimia is SO addicting, and the longer she does it, the harder it will be for her to stop. I'm generally a chicken, so I would probably tell a school nurse or counselor, ask them to keep me anonymous, and let them talk to her and/or her parents. That way, you've helped her without having to be directly in the middle of everything. Regardless of what happens, she needs someone to talk to, so even if she's only talking to you, at least she's talking. Although she probably needs professional help, your listening ear is more help than you can imagine. If you ever need anyone to talk to, message me. I've been in your friend's shoes for many years.
this girl swallowed a toothbrush from being bulimic
You really need to persuade her to get helps. The girl suffered from bulimia for 10 years and so did her sister. In fact - her sister only stopped when she swallowed a toothbrush and it almost killed her!
As an ex-bulimic with all sorts of physical problems now, i would advise you to tell someone that will help her. or find someone who she can talk to and get her the help. The worst thing that you can do, is tell someone on her, that will just hurt her because they do not understand bulimia, and it can definitely make things worst! Bulimia, is a sort of "coping" mechanism, you know how sometimes you feel "low" about yourself, will take that and magnify it 100X more with a voice that is constantly telling you what a stupid loser idiot your are, if you think about it, making yourself "vomit" is pretty gross in itself. So while you are vomiting you are definitely thinking all these horrible things about yourself. It is a total way of "controlling" things you have "NO Control" over. People that love her, may tell her, "omg, that's so gross, why do you even do that, that's stupid" and the worst thing to hear is, "just stop." Hello! It's not like we do it as a hobby. It's totally serious and you can die from it!! I totally messed up my heart, my esophagus is messed up now and my stomach lining has been deteriorating from all the acids. It really is a horrible thing to do to your own body. So if she can get the help now, (since it's just two months, well that's what she says)you would totally be saving her life!I was bulimic straight off and on but feel into it deeply for two years straight! 3 to 4 times a day!
I really messed myself up. If she is in college there are awesome therapist there! You can even take her to a psychology teacher and ask for help. Look into some help for her and go with her...that would be the best, because you will not be betraying her, you will be supporting her.
My prayers are with you! You have a difficult job ahead of you! But you will make such a difference in her life!