Must you have someone with you for a surgical abortion ???? Posted: 03-09-08 22:47pm
Hello to all,
I am 11 weeks pregnant and I am
devastated!! I found out a few weeks ago,
and I have been so torn about this. I am a
bar tender who drinks HEAVILY as it is
"encouraged" by the owner to increase
sales. After I found out I was preg. I had
started cramping and bleeding. I welcomed
the miscarriage if that was indeed
happening. Well, it was not so.. I have
explored the internet to encourage or
induce a miscarriage but to my dismay, I
am too far along. I feel and believe with
all of my heart this baby will not be
healthy due to the amount of alcohol I
have drank and I do not feel it is right
to bring an unwanted child who will be
medically challenged due to my
consumption.
I have a clinic about 2 hours from where I
live, but it says I MUST have someone
there with me?!?!?!?!? Is this normal as I
would rather not tell anyone that I am
having an abortion. Several people know,
including the father, who does not support
abortion, but does not support this child.
Who knows what would happen or say or
anything if he found out?
I have also seen an OB, and I do not feel
comfortable telling him that I have had an
abortion if I can go thru with it. How can
I hide such a thing?
I wanted to keep this private, as I live
in a small town and everyone knows
everything about everyone else. This is
why I was considering a medical abortion
instead of a surgical one, but now
everyone and everything is saying I am too
far along.
PLZ!! I need some help and advice... How
can I fake a miscarriage if I get a
surgical abortion?? Can that even be
possible???
Sorry as I know there are many questions
inside this topic... but any and all
advise is much needed and I thank you
all!!
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amino65
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Posted: 03-09-08 23:57pm
Hello,
I am very sorry that you find yourself in
this predicament. And you do not have to
justify yourself; it is your choice and
you know what is best for you!
Yes you are correct, you are too far gone
for a medical abortion and to attempt one
now could be dangerous for your health.
It is also true that you have to have
someone with you when you have a surgical
abortion, because you will be given some
kind of anesthetic/sedative to lessen the
pain of the procedure. They cannot legally
let you drive after you have been put
under sedation.
Do you perhaps have a friend who can take
you? The procedure is not long at all,
about 5-10 minutes, perhaps you can find
someone willing to help you that you can
trust to be discreet?
I'm sorry the father is not being more
supportive in your choice, but only you
know what is right for you, don't let
anyone pressure you otherwise.
Carifairy is extremely knowledgeable in
this arena, hopefully she answers this
quickly.
Good luck to you!
-Amino65
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sunbrown
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Posted: 03-10-08 10:29am
I had a surgical after a medical failed
and the clinic I go to does not require a
driver unless IV sedation is used. I drove
myself home which was 1.5 hours away with
no problems.
I did get anesthesia and something to help
me relax, but other than that I was awake
and it hurt but was over quite quickly.
The doctor was so nice and talked to me so
supportively through the process.
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Carifairy
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Posted: 03-10-08 10:48am
The procedure is VERY painful if you go
alone and cannot be put to sleep or
sedated, so if you prefer pain free, go
with IV sedation.
NO ONE will know that you had an abortion
if you tell them it was a miscarriage,
abortion does not cause any 'markers'
where anyone could know.
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MaineGirl76
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Posted: 03-10-08 20:36pm
I had a surgical abortion last May. I
drove myself there and back. The Planned
Parenthood here does not offer IV sedation
of any kind. The only thing they offered
me was a Lorazapam(sp). They said that I
would have to stay for another 2 hours
after the procedure to ensure I was able
to drive home safely. I was fine, the
Lorazapam did nothing for me at all.
Take Care.
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lele25
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Posted: 03-10-08 20:42pm
You can have the procedure done with out
sedation, although I have heard that its
not very comfortable, however then you
would be able to drive your self. Also,
and I realize this may be very pricey, you
could get a taxi service to take to and
from the facility.
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poohlady
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Posted: 03-10-08 21:42pm
Well, I did it... I have talked to a
friend who is understanding.... I am going
to call the clinic tomorrow and hopefully
get things set up...
I am scared, scared of my choice, what I
am about to do, ect ect ect.
Like I said before, I live in a small town
and everyone knows about everything about
everyone.... but I am now at the point,
that if he finds out, I will have to take
the outcome. I cannot continue this..
Thank you everyone for your post and
welcoming words of guidance..
I am pleased I found this website and
empowered by the postings not onlyy to me
but to others who are scared, in need, ect
ect ect...
Again, I am calling the clinic tomorrow,
and I broke the "barrier of silence" and I
have someone who will go with me.....
I may write again before I go, but I may
just sit back and read some of the
wonderful support everyone gives out....
Thank you again!!
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Carifairy
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Posted: 03-10-08 21:59pm
MAINE GIRL-
Planned Parenthood is well known, but I
usually tell women to choose clinics OTHER
than PP for abortion.
PP is more herdy than other clinics, and
does not offer the same painless abortion
services as other places do.
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MaineGirl76
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Posted: 03-11-08 00:38am
Carifairy
I agree with you on that. I just wanted to
get it done and over with. It was quite
painful, although, only for a few minutes
but if I am ever in that situation again I
will definately look into another
facility.
And yes it did seem very herdy, the
morning I went in, the waiting room was
filled with so many women that were there
for an abortion, I felt like we were
cattle and not women.
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MaineGirl76
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Posted: 03-11-08 00:47am
poohlady
wrote:
Well, I did it... I have
talked to a friend who is
understanding.... I am going to call the
clinic tomorrow and hopefully get things
set up...
I am scared, scared of my choice, what I
am about to do, ect ect ect.
Like I said before, I live in a small town
and everyone knows about everything about
everyone.... but I am now at the point,
that if he finds out, I will have to take
the outcome. I cannot continue this..
Thank you everyone for your post and
welcoming words of guidance..
I am pleased I found this website and
empowered by the postings not onlyy to me
but to others who are scared, in need, ect
ect ect...
Again, I am calling the clinic tomorrow,
and I broke the "barrier of silence" and I
have someone who will go with me.....
I may write again before I go, but I may
just sit back and read some of the
wonderful support everyone gives out....
Thank you
again!!
You are very welcome. It's ok to be
scared, its natural. But you will be ok.
Everything will work itself out just
fine.
This site is wonderful. I found so much
support here. There are alot of great
women on here, and they all genuinely
care. PM me anytime you feel like
talking.
And to Carifairy,
I just wanted to say they I think what you
do is wonderful. I have been lurking
around for awhile and you have always been
very helpful, comforting, and caring to
everyone. You certainly are an asset to
this forum as well as the clinic you work
for.
Take Care.
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lucy315
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Posted: 03-11-08 03:53am
MaineGirl76
wrote:
Carifairy
I agree with you on that. I just wanted to
get it done and over with. It was quite
painful, although, only for a few minutes
but if I am ever in that situation again I
will definately look into another
facility.
And yes it did seem very herdy, the
morning I went in, the waiting room was
filled with so many women that were there
for an abortion, I felt like we were
cattle and not
women.
I completely agree with you. I did not go
to PP, but I did feel like I was being
herded like cattle! Of course it was a
Saturday, so it was quite crowded. I
chose not to be sedated, and it was
painful, but very quick. I drove myself
there and back. The only reason I chose
that clinic, was because there was no
counseling available. I knew I wanted the
abortion, and just wanted to be in and
out.
poohlady - Good luck with everything. I'm
glad you found someone you can trust and
who is understanding. Everything will be
fine.
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MarieCurie
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Posted: 09-06-08 16:25pm
I went to PP, yes it was crawded and I had
to wait like 6-7 hours but they treated us
so good and they were all very sweet and
helpful
