Hi

Everyone is different as to when they want to clean things out. I know when my grandpa passed away, my grandma started cleaning out his closets and dressers within a month. I don't think she was thinking properly at the time. I believe it was reaction with her, because one day we went down there and she had either thrown things away or given them away. I think it bothered me more than it did her.
To this day I can not sit in the chairs he sat in. Those are his chairs. Does that make sense to you at all?

On a side note I will tell you to look through her belongings purses, pockets, etc..your grandma's generation was very good at hiding things.

if it was me---id change it all
when ,my grandmother died grandad refused to move anyting he wanted the same meals the same eveything--then he got married and his new wife changed it all. so i think that its a personal decision

It is a personal decision. You do what you feel is right. However I personally feel that everyone should take time to do something like that because once something is done and given away or sold, that's the end and you can't get it back. It's something that should be thought about...you might want those things back later or a relative might too.

I agree with mominashoe.
There are things that someone might like to have but it is already gone. It's so hard when we lose a loved one and the decisions that have to made.

It's a good idea to have the person write out what they want to go to whom.
I know my grandparents started giving away some things so they knew who was getting what and if some else had a problem with that then they dealt with the grandparents decisions.

i agree as well. personally id not get rid of it--perhaps rent a storage space and store it there untill you are ready to deal with it

HI, I work as a care provider in San Francisco, CA. The lady i'm providing care for Is suppose to being paying me half of my income and the other half i get a check from the state (IHSS). At first she was paying me but later claimed that she was having financial problems and that she could pay me the full amount when she got a refund back from the state. But she recently told me she needs to keep most of that refunded money, offering me only a little, when i asked her to give me just 50percent, she changed her story and said that she wasnt getting a refund at all, and could pay me nothing.
She is on SSDI for back problems, im pretty sure she has full medical coverage. Is there a way i can find out if she is getting a refund. also, does she need my signature to get this refund. Im afraid she is making money off of me, in addition to the free care shes getting from me. what are my options, i dont really want to get her in trouble for fraud, so i want to be sure that she can get a refund back, before i do anything against her. please reply anyone who has advise.