I have recently moved away from my parents to another state with my boyfriend. I am a 23 yr old college grad with a full time job. I am an only chil and the move has been difficult on my mother. I knew it would be from the beginning, but i really felt the move was right. I have been away for about 8 months and I am currently so happy! this has been the best thing for me, and for my relationship with my boyfriend. I am looking forward to getting married and starting a family sometime in the future. My mom has her good days and bad. But when they are bad they are awful! I know she misses me so i do believe I go above and beyond to stay in contact with her. We have made a few trips back to my hometown and i call her probably 3 times a day. And still at times she is so angry with me and gets this attitude. She recently flipped out me for no reason and hung up on me. I called her back a few days later and she was still mad. My thing is niether my mom or dad RARELY ever call me. i feel like i am the one always trying... but my efforts are never good enuough in my moms eyes. I mean sometimes I dont have anything to say on the phone.. ya know. I mean my day is the same as yesterday so i call her and dont know what to say. But i know if i dont call her she will take offense and get mad. To give you some background info.. i am an only child. My mother had an AWFUL childhood and left the house when she was 16. she really doesnt speak to anyone in her family, and i have met her parents, my grandparents once when i was like 4. My dads parents disliked my mom and they never had anything to do with her. that set of grandparents and family were never really around me either. So my mom and dad are really the only family i have known. I am struggling because she is always so mad. nothing is ever good enough and it is starting to push me away. She hates to hear if my boyfriend and I do something with his family. so i try not to talk about that. I just dont know how to handle it. It has always been her way or no way type of deal in our house. I was the perfect highschool student/athlete. did EVRYTHING she has ever wanted me to do because i was afraid to dissapoint her and afraid of her wrath to be honest.
I feel guilty in a way because i am so happy with my current life. She is so negative i feel like i should be negative as well. My dad kinda stays out of it. and then she tries to make me feel guilty at times saying "you never call your dad". but the phone works two ways! he NEVER calls me. why is it my fault all the time? i didnt even tell her i got a dog for the longest time because i was afraid she would get mad and yell and tell me how stupid of an idea that was. I am two states away, 23, paying my bills, and have yet to ask my mom for a single penny. I am a responsible adult!

What do i do!? how do i handle my mom? i feel like i can never truly make her happy unless i am living under her roof again, and still then there would be something i did/didnt do to upset her.