Single and Pregnant Forum - 8months pregnant alone and depressed

my b.f of 8years on and off decided 2wks ago that he didnt want to be with me anymore and started dating another girl. we lived to gether and the house was under my name it was a rental but he paid the bills it is also under his mom name i am pretty sure he has the girl over the house sleeping over and stuff because when i found out what he was doing i took the rent money and my stuff and left i am not at my dads house in south fl and have no a.c i am dying and to think that girl is in my house with what was suppose to be my man. now i am only 21 and i have to other kids from a previous relationship when we broke up a couple years ago he went to jail and i met someone and had two kids. now i am pregnant with my third and his first i was thinking about giving the baby up for adoption because i am not working and havent been my entire pregnancy i was in school and he told me to quit my job he will take care of me now he is taking care of someone else i am so depressed i cant eat or sleep i cant stop thinking about this he was the love of my life and he wants the baby he does not want me to give him up and he wants to be in the hospital room his mom told me i could live with her after the baby is born until i get on my feet but i just dont want to do it again and bymyself he wanted this baby i wanted to get an abortion he even kept the pregnancy test i cant believe he did this he even has my name tattoo on his arm. any advice or similar stories and what you did to deal and what do you think i should do about this "female" in my house obviously she has no self respect

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shelli7345

replied on July 23rd, 2009

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My two cents... First off, I am sorry to hear about your situation. You really need to focus on you right now. You and the health of your child is what is important now. Surround yourself with loved ones. Keep writing on here. Anything to help keep your mind off of the situation. Do you still want the baby?

janye123

replied on July 23rd, 2009

New User

i dont no. bt i no that i cant handle him with someone else and i dont want him in my life forever whats going to happen when i see that girl holding my son in my house where i was suppose to be i dont no what to do

shelli7345

replied on July 23rd, 2009

New User

You need to do what you feel is best for you and the child. Adoption is always an option. Lots of couples want babies. I actually work with 5 people that have adopted children in the past 3 years. All very happy. And the children are really lucky to have great parents. You really need to do what you feel is best.

Everything truly works out in the end. And I know it is difficult to see this now. Just be strong. Think positive. Focus on the future and how amazing you are. Once you do this everything else will fall into place.

You deserve to be treated with respect. A man should be begging to be with you. If he doesn't let him go, he is not worth it.

lostinsyracuse

replied on July 23rd, 2009

New User

Agreed - you need to be treated with respect above all else. this guy is showing you none. And it's not about this new girl he's dating - if it weren't her, it would be another girl. A guy who leaves his girlfriend after 8 years when she's pregnant with his child is not a guy you can ever count on to provide you with a meaningful, mature, rewarding relationship, and you deserve nothing less.

This will be hard at first, but you're going to make it through. As the previous poster suggested, surround yourself with good people, close friends and family, and positivity, and marvel at the beauty of life that you're about to witness. Make your life about your son, and live for him and be the best parent he could ever hope for. Work on that, work on you, and the rest of your life will fall into place. Just get as far away from this guy as you can. Trust me.

And also, if you keep your baby, you'll eventually come to a place in your life where you will be okay with another woman holding your child while he's with his dad. You really will.

Good luck.

janye123

replied on July 23rd, 2009

New User

if i keep the baby i will have to move in with the "jerk's" mom so its going to be really hard to stay away i do NOT and will NEVER be back with him but emotionally will i be able to deal with it and he wants to be in the hospital room also i dont no what to do. he wants the baby but i feel he would have stayed if he wanted him that bad but then again who am i to take a baby away from a family that wants him i feel if i do something worse is going to happen to me and i no he will get his someday

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