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Q: Missing baby's daddy

asked by: Amethyst_Butterfly on October 7th, 2008

Active User, very eHealthy

As terrible as he was to me, I have accepted that I'll be a single parent, I just still can't let go. I dream all the time, that everything was all a dream, that he never left and it just kills me. I wish things had turned out differently. Theres nothing lonelier then being single and pregnant. Its hard to hate him. I loved him so much and he left so suddenly. He had moved on to someone new in less then a week. We had been good friends even before going out. And it tears me up to know that he was able to destroy everything over a baby. I was so sure he wouldn't leave but inside I knew it, that he wouldn't stick around. I'm so tired of being depressed and bitter over this. I just wish things had been different. It didn't have to be like this. It could've been different. Thanks for listening

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Dannzibelle

replied on October 7th, 2008

Supporter

I can only imagine what it must be like to be single and pregnant, my relationship has recently ended and i'm finding it tough with a 15 month old even though it was me who ended the relationship.
I can understand that you can't hate him, you loved him and he's given you the most important thing in the world, your baby. If there is absulutly no chance of you two getting back together then as tough as it will be you do have to move on, you CAN be the best mum and be single, ok yes i imagine it will be alot harder but at the end of the day you have to do whats best for you and your baby, one day you will find someone who is perfect for you and will love you and your child.

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Truth_Lives

replied on October 7th, 2008

New User

I am so sorry for that Dani. I used to be here a while ago and I know you are an amazing mother and such a smart woman.

Rosie H

replied on October 13th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

hang in there...this too shall pass.

i know that sounds so stupid right now but its true. Every day you get up and continue living is another day closer to your happiness.

its impossible to forget a love like that overnight. it took three years for my 1st love. just keep living day by day and try and look at the positive things about being seperated.

like now you arent treated bad or what ever else he did. look at the goof stuff until you beleive it. i know you still love him so it will be hard but you can. You are going to be a mother and YOU WILL be able to handle anything!

keep talking about how you feel too. you need to get all that off your chest. PM me anytime. I know what a broken heart can do to a person

oh_mommy

replied on October 14th, 2008

Supporter

dani i didnt know you broke up with him... what happend?

im so sorry amethyst but if he treated you badly its probably a good thing he's gone.
have you talked to your family about these feelings it might make you feel better getting it out there

musikmaker

replied on October 14th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

Dani I am so sorry to hear that you broke up with Dom.

I feel for you single mothers. You must have such strength because I wouldn't know how I could do this without Dan.

Dannzibelle

replied on October 15th, 2008

Supporter

WE've been drifting apart for a long time now, he's still my best friend and still lives with us but we're just not in a relationship anymore. We actually get on better as parents now then we did when we were together. We're both still very young so one day we might get back together, it might just be a break that we needed but right now who knows.

LittleCaseysMommyJen

replied on October 28th, 2008

Experienced User

Sorry about the split Dani, but I'm sure you're right. It's for the best.

I'm a firm believer that things happen for a reason.

Amethyst, I am a single mother. I've dated but my sons father hasn't been around. We've went back and fourth in the begining and that was just because I wasn't strong enough to completely let go.
The things he did to me weren't what someone in love does. It's hard and I know from first hand experience what you're going through, but it gets better. You have you and your child and a baby is the biggest blessing of them all.

If you need to talk or anything, you can message me.

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