can someone please move this to the ADHD forum?

i must have opened someone elses post that was moved here. thanks

thank you

well no suggestions huh? im still fighting this battle. But from my observations it seems that my hubby is just using the meth as an accuse to use so he can feel better about getting high.

but i know that he has sooo much trouble focusing and doing daily tasks....i dont know

maybe someone will reply

I know exactly what you need to do.... and I'm dead serious on this one. There are times in my life when I know exactly what to do (for whatever reason) and this is one of them.

Tell him he needs to stop immediately or you will LEAVE HIM. The absolute LAST thing that will make his ADHD better is meth. Lets say(and this is very far out) that meth makes his ADHD calm down. In the process of calming his ADHD, he is KILLING HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU one step at a time. I live in Los Angeles now, I have seen meth absolutely destroy peoples lives. It is highly addictive, and will not only ruin him.. but it will ruin your relationship. There are other alternatives. If he MUST do a drug of any sort (and if I were you I would MAKE him steer away from meth or pick up my $*!T and LEAVE.... easier said than done but I'll say it again- pick up my $*!T and LEAVE...) perhaps marajuana will help him to relax. I can absolutely assure you that this so-called solution to the problem is more of a problem than a solution. You have to call the shots. Do not allow him to make you feel bad about being in control of your own life because you deserve to be in a relationship that makes you feel good. Absolutely not. Put your foot down. You are uncomfortable with the situation or you wouldn't be writing this blog. Give him an altamatum. Any man that chooses meth over a woman is not worth her time. Is it dramatic? NO. I used to be a sissy girl. I got hurt, stepped on, used, etc etc etc. I didn't want to be "mean." You will not be "mean" if you go about it in the right way. Making fun of him, calling him names... staying in the relationship unhappily... is mean. Telling him exactly how it is and what you want, and standing your ground... is smart. Do NOT allow this to continue... you will absolutely regret it.

Ps. The guy that made me wise up had the name of Daniel..... watch out for those ones. Trust your instinct. Stop ignoring it.

Ppss. I am now in a relationship with a drug-free man who treats me like a queen. Not only that, but he is absolutely happy... and I never request a thing from him.

Pppss: If he revealed he has been smoking "a little here and there" to you, chances are he is in deeper than you know. He will never admit it. Just know it.

Ppppppsssss... I swear I'm almost done- You don't have to be mean about it. Be calm. He didn't do anything wrong and is entitled to do whatever he wants with is life. Tell him if meth is what he wants to do, that is ok with you. He needs to live his life. However, just as important as it is for him to live life the way he wants.. it is important for you to live life the way you want. Therefore, you have to leave if he wants to continue with meth. It's ok with you, but you are leaving. Then you must follow through with your words.

thanks so much for your reply. I actually had "the talk|" with him. I was at my mother in laws for the weekend. When I came home he had moved out.

Yep he packed his entire life and left me. He seems to be happier at a tweeker house than with his family. |It was devastating. But he said he would never stop and that I would have to love him for him. He also cheasted on me and said he wishes I wouldnt havebeen the woman to have his son.

So much pain. I cannot beleive it still. So im freeof him and free of the drugs. Im happy to come home now to a safe place. But im heartbroken. Ive loved this man for 6 yrs and had a child from him. It was supposed to be forever.

Oh well. I know I deserve better.

rosie im glad annes advice helpd u out i dont know her but from read ur story n her advice i think id be able to ask her anything i hope the two of u r friends on here

seem like everything's pretty too late right now but if its wayy before you guys breaking up. I would tell you have him to go to state health dept to tell them how ADHD would disabiling him and they should put him on disability benefit til he get it straighten up with meds.