its both peoples responcibilities i think. sometimes contraception fails on both sides or just one (condom breaks for the guy, girl forgets the pill or it doesnt work etc) so many things can happen. i recently talked to my boyfriends friend who says he purposely tried to get his girl pregnant cause he thought that would make her stay with him*eww*. fortunately she figured out what he was planning and got on the depo shot without him knowing. i was shocked cause all ive heard were of some women trying to do that to the guy, not the other way around lol. she even told him if she got pregnant he would abort ( by the way shes 1

what im trying to get at is theres so many outcomes it just boggles my mind. if a couple..even if they exclusive or not suddenly has an accident its both their responcability to figure out what to do. they can try staying together for the sake of the kid but it might make things worst.he might want to stay but she doesnt want to have the kid, she wants it but he doesnt...theres soooo many. im 24 and my boyfriend is 24 next month...we both agree that if we were to have an accident i would not keep it because we dont have anything to offer a child. i dont have a stable foundation for myself, im realistic when it comes to this topic cause ive had a few scares, if we were to get pregnant and he doesnt want it and leaves atleast i would have a solid foundation were i wouldnt feel scared that i wouldnt be able to provide for my child. so i dont believe in blaming anyone unless theres a malicious intent on either side were their just trying to see if by having a baby the other will stay. sorry its so long just my thought on the subject

Apparently, becuase the woman is the one carrying the baby...she must be responsible for everything. I don't know....I could not venture into some of these people's minds and figure out what they are thinking.

I know a lot of people get all up in a tizzy because they feel that the abortion procedure is something that a woman can solely decide on (WHETHER or not that is the truth). The woman has complete control over the pregnancy...and if she has the right to terminate it, then by golly she obviously did something to have the baby.

The logic is not correct...and I agree, men should be given more responsibility- hell, EVERYONE should carry around a barrier method in their pocket/purse/etc.

It ain't right, but since women bear the brunt of post-sex whatever, it behooves them to step it up on the "who am I going to bounce on the bed with tonite" Patrol.

We wouldn't hand over the responsibility of making decisions about our unwanted pregnancy to them, so why would we when having sex with them?

My girlfriend had an abortion last june. I try hard as hell not to think about it, but still, I feel like crap. I feel like I should be tortured to death. We did it on planned parenthood, so when she went in, I went to get something to drink. She said she came out again and if I had been there the abortion wouldn't have happened.

thats pretty messed up of her to blame you. you both agreed to do it right? if you did she shouldnt be talking like that, and making you feel horrible. my boyfriends baby mama always throws it in his face about how he should be a better father (but she really means he should be there wit her and not me)her silent way of trying to get on his nerves

Men SHOULD wear condoms and if they don't want to wear one you have the option of saying no sex unless of course you were raped. Only thing a guy could do is wear a condom, you can use BC, say no to condomless sex and then abort if you do get pregnant and he'd never know.

I wouldn't trust a guy who DID NOT want to use condoms in this day and age when not only STDs and STIs are much more common but HIV/AIDS is on the rise everywhere. Condomless sex in a non committed relationship is like playing russian roulette with your health.

I had a surgical abortion yesterday and no, I don't feel guilty or regret it, but if I feel anything it's anger towards the "father" who accused me of all kinds of craziness (doing this on purpose, "betraying" him), insisted on an abortion and then left me to deal with the consequences of any decision I made. I found it amazing that he could blame me--it's not like I was blaming HIM and that he could abandon me at this incredibly difficult time in my life out of his own selfishness. No, I don't regret my abortion because it was the right thing for me and my family (I already have 2 sons), but I do blame him for not being the man he should have been and standing by me to help me make the best decision for all of us. Shame on him and all of these "men"-- abortion, childbirth and birth control are our BURDENS to bear as women they are not our CHOICES to left to be made alone.

They ARE our choices! You decide whether or not to have sex with him, whether or not to use a condom and whether or not to have an abortion or a baby. He can't force you into an abortion or childbirth. He left, so what, if we wasn't your husband he had no legal obligation to do anything for you, he wasn't responsible for you or your family if you weren't married.

It's called PROCHOICE for a reason, a burden would be if you didn't have the option of abortion or BC. You're the one with the uterus, you're the one with the control. His blaming you was wrong but his leaving- he has no obligation to hold your hand through a decision- in this case, an abortion.