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Q: Masturbation urge

asked by: BlazeF on February 2nd, 2009

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I'm a 22 year old female and I have this constant urge to orgasm. I don't think it's the persistant arousal syndrome because I don't have it every single second of the day but it is certainly a major part of my life. I feel it's starting to get worse; my fantasies are getting more and more violent and extreme, I will go into toilets at work to masturbate, and make myself orgasm at any opportunity I am able to. I cannot sit at the back of a bus because the vibrations cause me to have a need to orgasm and it drives me insane. I will demand sex off my partner and get very angry if he doesn't drop everything in one minute to have sex with me. I don't orgasm much during sex, and if I do orgasm with him I have to concentrate a lot; instead, I use the sex with him as material for me to use when I do masturbate. I am masturbating between 4-10 times a day. On worse days I will reach about 15. I don't know if this is having an affect on my mental state; I have suffered from mental issues in the past and I'm sure they will never fully go away, I suspect I have some form of manic depression but I'm not sure, and I hate to think that this masturbating obsession I have will be contributing to me getting worse. I have been unable to go on the pill because my sex drive seems to go even higher and I am unable to function; the need to orgasm and have sex would reduce me to tears. Also, I masturbate uncontrollably when I'm particularly stressed out. It doesn't calm me down but when I'm stressed I feel that familiar tingling which is calling me to have an orgasm. I think about sex a lot during the day and am very easily turned on, no matter what. I don't know, can anyone give me some kind of feedback? Is there a problem here or is this all in my head?

Replies(12)

Lizze

replied on February 2nd, 2009

New User

I believe that the mind is the most powerfull thing,but some of us do have addictive personalities and yes having a mental illness does make it harder.i think you should see a counselor or someone,dont be ashamed

tavy88

replied on February 2nd, 2009

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Tavy88

I don't think there is something wrong with you. I do the same you know:D It's just we're horny all the time:))..just joking . Trust me there are many people like you, with a bigger sex appetite that's all:D..Peace!

diamondsz

replied on February 2nd, 2009

Extremely eHealthy

It does become an issue when it consumes your life, sex is great, don't get me the wrong way here but when your masterbating at work thats pretty harsh. When it comes to forms of mentall illnesses, they can sometimes be the causes for it, sometimes they can make people a little more promiscious.

The pill is like being pregnant and with some of us when we are pregnant we either lack the desire to have sex or become total nympho's ~Hand up~

I have a high sex drive but not to your extent although I did get mad at my ex when he wouldn't put out lol,it was like Im tired....but but lol...

BlazeF wrote:

I feel it's starting to get worse; my fantasies are getting more and more violent and extreme, I will go into toilets at work to masturbate, and make myself orgasm at any opportunity I am able to

This is the problem!!! having sex 15 times a day is nothing but when it starts to interfere with your normal activities, you need to speak to someone, please don't take that the wrong way.

So see if you can talk to a professional, see what they say, if you have a recurrence of manic depression the pills may help. You may also have bi-polar which is extreme highs and lows...

If you don't think it is a problem, you can control it, even at its worse then I wouldn't have too many worries but just giving my two cents!

furrytail

replied on February 2nd, 2009

Moderator

BlazeF,
I definitely have a very high sex drive ("hands up") and can certainly relate to the need to masturbate every day and/or have sexual relations. I wouldn't say that I do it 15 times daily, but I typically could have some sort of sex, either one my own or with a partner, about 4 to 5 times daily for most days.
I agree with others in the forum that your situation is not a problem unless it is affecting your life and your lifestyle. Stroking away at yourself at work can be a risky business as getting caught there could be disasterous or at least embarassing. As for your parner you need to be careful not to alienate him (and this is difficult if your sex urges are extreme).

Have you considered discussing this with a sex therapist or perhaps looked into sex addicts anonymous? I'm not implying that you are addicted, but these avenues may provide you with someone who can discuss this with you.
Certainly I am always here to discuss your situation and if you need more privacy to discuss particular details, feel free to private message me. We are here to help each other.

Wendy

sabrina_thomas

replied on February 3rd, 2009

New User

IT'S YOUR DRUG!!!

Alot of times people do drugs or they needs a relaxitive to calm down if they are to hyper or to stressed out, or angrey you do not resort to the meds. Instead you reasort to pleasuring yourself i think you are not the type of person to really be want to be taking pills, your probably against taking pills. but you do what you need to release yourself from your stress.........IN OTHER WORDS ITS ALL IN YOUR HEAD!!!

newmansion

replied on February 4th, 2009

New User

Put your mind to other things

I think in your situation, it would help a lot if you had something else to focus on. I am not saying you should pursue another kind of addiction, but something like sports, chess, cards, novels or even computer games that are things you can get hooked to, and these do take your mind off sex. There must be at the least a comic book, a tv show or a movie that you can direct your attention to and foil your body's urge for sex. Good luck.

midwest

replied on February 4th, 2009

Experienced User

chill

maybe your thinking too much. you need to relax if you can. we should hang out Smile

just playing.

supernovaXoXoX

replied on February 4th, 2009

New User

I had a friend who would go through periods where he always needing sex, non-stop, and was never satisfied. It turned out to be the "manic" phase of a bi-polar disorder. But that may or may not be a the case for you.

If it is interfeering with your life, you have no control over it, and your job is at risk, then it is time to seek professional help.

sheralee39

replied on February 24th, 2009

New User

Masturbation Urge

I have to masturbate a lot, and for a long time, I have even had to get a nobbly finger cone to satisfy myself which makes me shake all over after using it. I sometimes have a small device in my panties to wriggle around on when sitting which is quite messy afterwards. I tried stopping for a week but its unbearable.

bcquest

replied on March 3rd, 2009

New User

can the pill make you horny? I recently changed brand of BC and well, it is just horny-polooza. I am not in relationship right now, so i began masturbating. I am not sure if that helped or made the problem worse. what should i do?

michzz

replied on March 10th, 2009

New User

you are sex addict

You enjoy the obvious sensations of sexual pleasure, but you've also shifted your brain chemistry so that you are fighting off depression with orgasms.

Seek out the help of a therapist.

It's ok, you can feel better once you have a handle on this.

furrytail

replied on March 10th, 2009

Moderator

Then I suppose I must be a 'sex addict' as well because I love to masturbate and I have been known to fight off depression with an orgasm here or there.

Wendy

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