Masturbation coming between a Relationship Posted: 04-04-08 08:02am
I need some help!! My boyfriend & I
have been together nearly 2 years. I moved
in with him after 8 months because
everything was great, only to discover
that he had a large amount of porn DVD's
hidden in his wardrobe and also using the
internet for videos, pictures anything,
for masturbation purposes.
Our sex life was great for about the 1st
four months then he just stopped wanting
sex, this I later discovered was because
he was masturbating most days in the
morning, so by the time I was seeing him
in the evening he couldn't get an erection
when we went to bed.
I have issues with porn which he is fully
aware of and have told him that if he
needs porn etc in his life then I can't be
in a relationship with him. He has told me
that it's me that he wants and he doesn't
need it. I don't mind him liking it but I
woild prefer it as a couple thing or not
at all, but there are so many times when
he has promised to stay away, but has
returned to the internet to look up
pornographic websites regardless.
If there were not all the lies and he was
honest that he was using porn, he knows
that I would leave, but even that doesn't
seem to make a difference, as the other
week he came home pissed out of his head
and porn on TV was the first thing he did
when he came in!
I leave for work earlier than him everyday
and I know that he is masturbation as soon
as I'm gone because of the mess he leave's
behind! Plus, he cannot get an full
erection if I try anything with him in the
evening, this is another indication that
he has been masturbating.
Please can anyone help? and has anyone
else ever been in this situation and how
did you deal with this??
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xbostonx
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Mar 2008 Posts: 96 Location: Boston, MA
Posted: 04-04-08 09:39am
The only thing I can say is stop trying to
have sex with him for a while. That might
help him realize that your serious. For
the porn thing, you should not tell him
its a couple thing only and nothing else.
Hes a guy. All guys watch porn no matter
how much sex they get. Sometimes guys just
watch porn just for the hell of it.
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chris8
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Apr 2008 Posts: 4
Posted: 04-04-08 11:24am
i agree MEN will always watch porn no
matter how active thier sex life is and as
xbostonx said above play it his way for a
while he will soon come to realise that he
prefered the sex to sitting alone in front
of that screen.
The only reason i can relate is i used to
do the same thing with my grilfriend and i
realised that i was missing out to play
alone...
