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Masturbating with a friend

About me: I'm gay, I've been in a relationship for 12 years, and I have a VERY high sex drive while my partner has absolutely NONE. It is an issue in our relationship, one we find very difficult to talk about openly.

I watch porn and jack off, and occasionally I will go to the adult video store and jack off there with someone else. I never, ever do more than that. I don't like the idea of getting sucked by a stranger or doing more with someone I don't know.

I have a profile on a gay site, mostly so I can look at pictures of other guys. Recently, I discovered a friend of mine who I've known for a long time is on the site, too, and in his profile he talks about how he wants someone to jack off with. He is also in a relationship and faces some of the same issues.

Should I even broach the subject with him of possibly being jack-off buddies? It would be great for both of us, because we are both into that and wouldn't have to search out strangers. Both of us love our partners very much, but we need a sexual outlet. I'm just curious to get other peoples' thoughts on whether you have a friend you jack off with if you're married or in a relationship. Will it damage our relationships or our friendships with each other if we were to go down this path?
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replied March 12th, 2012
If you love your partner and he loves you, you should sit down with him and talk about how you really feel about masturbating with him. You need to be honest with him and then your partner will relize how you feel
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replied March 28th, 2012
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I hate to say this, but sex isn't the number one priortiy in a relationship. True, it's nice to have sex and have physical contact, but don't make it the number one thing on your list. Talk this out with your boyfriend. Ask him if maybe HE would want to try masturbating with you. he's your partner after all and he should be the one doing things like these with you, not your friend. Be patient. Sometimes in relationships, some don't want as much sex as the other. It's normal and common, but it can be frustrating. You can't force your boyfriend to do anything he doesn't want to do, but you shouldn't be going behind his back. Give it time, but more importantly, talk to your boyfrienda about all this. I'm sure he would appreciate you telling him before you go off and masturbate with someone else, rather than keeping it hidden from him. Just communicate and think about your options. I hope this helped.
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