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I dont know what it is, about lesbian porn that catches my interest. I also sometimes think same-sex fantasies but its never me doing anything to anything but those women doing things to me. When i think sex about my boyfriend it was always about me doing things to him, teasing, and such, going down on him, and riding him.

But you see, I also have ocd. And suffer from sexual obsessions. I have my whole life.

Right now, I'm having doubts about my sexuality even though I been straight my whole life, imagined my life with a man, and only ever thought of dating men.

But when i masterbate to porn. I find lesbian porn more stimulating then straight porn. I find it unattractive of a man shoving his penis in a womans mouth, so much that she seems to gag on it, or squirting his cum all over the woman. It's gross.

Does this make me gay?

I get anxious about being with a woman. They're haunting doubting thoughts. That make it impossible to be initmate with my boyfriend anymore.

Are there any women out there like me? Not just with ocd, but watch this and masterbate and such but they date men?
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replied May 27th, 2012
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To be perfectly honest I am not certain what ocd actually is or how it manifests itself but I strongly suspect it has little to do with the way you are feeling regarding your sexuality...

It isn't unusual for people to be turned on by thoughts and images of same sex encounters - so common is it that it is considered quite normal...

There is evidence to support the popular theory that few people are actually heterosexual or homosexual but are in reality somewhere on a scale of bisexuality and that living a same-sex lifestyle is a sexual preference and not a sexual orientation!

Men and women who declare themselves to be heterosexual will often find a sexual outlet in a same-sex relationship if they are deprived from members of the opposite sex. Young people often experiment with members of their own sex and even have a few same-sex affairs and even many of those who profess to be "Gay" have historically found safety in heterosexual relationships, which most have conducted so successfully they have produced families...

You are also not alone at finding some male-female sexual practices to be unpleasant. Lots of women are grossed-out by the thought of oral sex, for instance, in the cold light of day but do find it more acceptable when they are turned-on...

Your description of oral sex with a man, however, does make me think you are being conditioned more by porn than by warm and affectionate, even loving, relationships. Good sex should not be about men doing things to women in the way portrayed by porn images!
Good sex is about men and women doing things to each other, together and by mutual consent, things that are pleasant and acceptable to both of them!

Porn only exists because it makes some people a lot of money. It has little resemblance to real life and has little to teach about real relationships. Porn is for tittillation only and is of a very limited use...
Socially, the easy access computers and the internet have given everyone to porn today does a great deal of harm as it is both addictive and damaging to real relationships as it promotes wrong ideas about sex and relationships between real people.

With such easy access to porn, solitary masturbation can become more of a hobby and less about finding relief when the boyfriend or girlfriend is not around. It also has a desensitising effect on the senses so ordinary sexual encounters become insufficient...

Be reassured - your sexual interests are quite normal and not in the least unusual but I strongly advise you to cut down on your exposure to porn and try and masturbate only for necessary relief and pour your energies into real relationships and other pastimes...
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replied June 21st, 2012
hey doll im the exact same with the porn i have a boyfriend.. but when i watch porn it would have 2 be a 3 girl threesome or 2 girls or a man n 2 girls .. ive had a threesome with my partner and another girl i loved it .. u probly do like girls give it a go x x x
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replied June 21st, 2012
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Your fantasies, dreams and what you watch does not make you anything. For women, these fantasies and porn preferences does not translate to being a lesbian any more than me playing a racing game makes me a race car driver.

What makes you a lesbian is actively persuing women for sex, to the exclusion of men.

Unfortunately, having OCD does not make it easier to figure out who you are. So know that OCD is contributing to this confusion you are experiencing, and deal with it like you have been taught.

Also read this thread: http://ehealthforum.com/health/topic116440 .html
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replied June 22nd, 2012
No...watching lesbian porn does not make you gay. Masturbation is normal when watching anything that turns you on.
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replied July 3rd, 2012
My wife had a threesome at 18 with a couple in their 30's...loved the experience with the woman...hottest sex she has had, or ever will have, and still prefers to watch the sensuality of lesbian porn over straight porn anyday. Yet, she has no desire to be with a woman again. The sensuality and beauty of the female form is what she likes.
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replied July 3rd, 2012
My wife had a threesome at 18 with a couple in their 30's...loved the experience with the woman...hottest sex she has had, or ever will have, and still prefers to watch the sensuality of lesbian porn over straight porn anyday. Yet, she has no desire to be with a woman again. The sensuality and beauty of the female form is what she likes.
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