As women age our sex drive can diminish as well as mens. She could seek help from her gynecologist as it could be hormonal and just needs a boost.

Is your sex drive natural or is medication required?

Is this the only thing that has changed with her...sex wise? What about her outlook on life, her self esteem, loss of a job, friend, family member, etc? How is her attitude towards you...

~Zig

The best blessing is that my drive is all natural. I have nooo problem coming to attention at all.

We consider each other as best friends. Perhaps that is the problem we are best friend and no longer lovers.

We both have gained weight with age and I know we need to both lose weight.

Se is still employed as a school teacher, she certainly works hard and is tired however, her school system gives them a week off about every month throughout the year due to a modified block schedule so we have time to wind down and relax. She and I will go away on the motorcycle for days at a time. She claims that is her best time to relax.

I guess I am most confused about the part of her not really wanting intercourse even after I have had plenty of fore play and she even reaches organism, she just has no interest in helping me out. The last time I received any attention, she masturbated me but with the enthusiasm of someone heading down death row.

Go figure.

A couple of things come to mind on this....One is you mentioned she had gained weight...This is a BIG issue with a woman....Makes you want to hide yourself.....Being sexual is such an open and exposed feeling and if she does not feel good about herself this could definately affect her...I know that I used to feel this way until I got used to the idea that this is the way that it is and let myself go...Heck, I never will be 127 pounds and 5' 8" tall again...But so goes life.....Have you ever tried doggy sex or her riding you cowgirl?.....These are both erotic and she may be more comfortable with them.....

On her pleasuring you...This is a funny thing...A woman has to be in a sexual mood to perform a sex act on a man or else it is a job...Kind of an unpleasant job as she has already been pleasured and her orgasm is over....I think the main thing with giving a man oral sex and bringing him alive is stirring yourself at the same time....Seeing she has probably passed menopause she may have willingly decided that she is no longer the sexual woman that she was when she was younger....Unfortunately she is wrong but IMO this misjustice is done to many women in even suggesting that this will happen after a certain age.....IT THEN GIVES THEM AN EXCUSE FOR NOT WANTING SEX....Once this starts to happen and their sexual parts cease to stay juicy and stimulated they kind of die inside and the want of man goes into remission.....Sex becomes a chore instead of a joy...

I have just a couple of thoughts....Get away....Some neat and romantic place....Talk about what you were and what you want to be...These are important times in your life in being both lovers and friends....Then....if she drinks...Feed her a couple to loosen her up.....(I can't believe I said this)....I believe if you used to be this sexual that you can be again....Age is a number only......

Much luck,
Caroline

is she taking any medication? theres is so much things that can lower a womens libido. i m 32 years old and i always had a high sex drive and not its gone from the medication i m taking. so when my boyfriend looking at me to give him a blow job....i now look at it as if its a chore.
i would try herbs that will make her horny or traditional medicine.

Hey mate, your wife sounds like mine. I bet she is only half in the relatioship on other areas as well. I do all the house hold chores inside and out, work full time and have tried everyting from pampering to talking ... you name it.

I have now given up and have had an affair with a sexy lady. The sex was briliant. If it wasn't for the kids I would have ditched her long ago.

I am not saying you should find another lady, but i have talked about the lack of sex to my wife and she tells me its just that she has no desire. Well I have now given up on her and having my needs met else where. I have come to realise that many woman as with many men, are totally selfish. If she won't make any effort, in the bedroom or elsewhere, it is all over as far as I am concerned

Wow! Children, weight gain or any number of things could've caused her lack of stimulation. Sounds like she needs a jump start or boost. I know several people who have used all natural products like LeVive, Nocol and/or Power Boost with great results.

Then change the scenery one weekend. Just you and her in a relaxed and romantic venue. Take her shopping for a sexy dress, shoes, make-up, wine & dine her and let the party begin. Spice it up!

I think your 50 and she's 59. It's a simple as that. She's probably already gone through menopause and her hormones are in the toilet. She needs testosterone which docs don't like to give. Especially male docs. But it is also a carcinogen for women.

You have to remember...she's almost 60 years old. Sorry.

You need to start romancing her early in the day, sex starts with the small nice things you have done all day. Go out on a date, plan something special with her. Give her a foot or back massage. One doesnt just want to jump in bed and have sex like animals when they get older, women need to be pampered and the romance start early that day.