I am having a hard time understanding how to not let the abuse of his remark's not effect me,but,(no coincidence!!!!) I have borderline personality disorder, I believe caused by his abuse for 18yrs!!!Want to let every young girl out there~ DON'T settle for look's(they're decieving!!) anything but the BEST for YOU!! I feel as if I'm going crazy at time's!!! He'll mess w/ my head & say~he never said or did this or that,god help me,all I want to do anymore is cry!!!!!!!!!!!! & have nowhere to go,family is out of state & have 2 kid's still at home(have 3) I'm 41yrs. I feel so neglected & so alone I've commited suicide before~ don't want to go there again,but, feel I just want to runnnnnnnnn & hide!!!any replie's~ I thank you in advance!
You need to go to a womens shelter if you have no where else to go. There really isn't much I can tell you since your options are very slim. Maybe he could get to the doctor and get on some meds and you two could go to counceling? Do you think he'd be up for that?
if he's not up for counceling then you need someone to talk to a friend if not than go to the therapist. if he beats you then u should go to the cops they'll take care of you. u n your 2 kids will be better with out him all he does is maybe supply the money plus u don't need any one who does not appreciate u, just leave him u've been miserable for a lonnnnnggg time and it's time to be strong and stand of 4 yourself and your kinds as well because if he treats u like that how he cannot control his anger forsure oneday he will take it out on your children when your not around and if you see it what are you going to do about it?? let it pass?? that is just wrong. he's your husband and he's not treating you emotionally well then it's NOT going to stop,, at that age stubborn men will never change and if they tel you they will u SHOULD set a line where ENOUGH is ENOUGH, your leaving! TRUST me your life will change for the BETTER, u will not waste useless time and tears over something rediculous. Honestly, ur husband is a REAL Jer.K,, who know's maybe he has someone else on the side that's why he's treating you like the way he is, he has no respect or manners for the person who he so calls lover, i don't think he has any feelings for you, it probably makes him happy to see u sad, don't let it effect you, u have to be strong and stand tough..
my advice is if u want to give him another chance just let him know that the next time he does this to u then u will leave him for good! don't worry people get divorces all the time it's normal, many people are more happy that way. U don't need to depend on any one you have to start becoming independent!
i wish u the best, make the righ decision for yourself, kids, and the future.
i agree, u deserve someone who is going to love and respect you for who you are and he shouldn't be treating you this way if it has been going on for so long it doesn't sound like it will ever change am sorry good luck