I am having a hard time understanding how
to not let the abuse of his remark's not
effect me,but,(no coincidence!!!!) I have
borderline personality disorder, I believe
caused by his abuse for 18yrs!!!Want to
let every young girl out there~ DON'T
settle for look's(they're decieving!!)
anything but the BEST for YOU!! I feel as
if I'm going crazy at time's!!! He'll mess
w/ my head & say~he never said or did this
or that,god help me,all I want to do
anymore is cry!!!!!!!!!!!! & have nowhere
to go,family is out of state & have 2
kid's still at home(have 3) I'm 41yrs. I
feel so neglected & so alone I've commited
suicide before~ don't want to go there
again,but, feel I just want to runnnnnnnnn
& hide!!!any replie's~ I thank you in
advance!
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Willa Weintraub
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Mar 2007 Posts: 3399 Location: The Beach!
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Posted: 05-22-08 09:38am
You need to go to a womens shelter if you
have no where else to go. There really
isn't much I can tell you since your
options are very slim. Maybe he could get
to the doctor and get on some meds and you
two could go to counceling? Do you think
he'd be up for that?
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help me plaese
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Sep 2008 Posts: 19 Location: ,
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Posted: 09-04-08 23:27pm
if he's not up for counceling then you
need someone to talk to a friend if not
than go to the therapist. if he beats you
then u should go to the cops they'll take
care of you. u n your 2 kids will be
better with out him all he does is maybe
supply the money plus u don't need any one
who does not appreciate u, just leave him
u've been miserable for a lonnnnnggg time
and it's time to be strong and stand of 4
yourself and your kinds as well because if
he treats u like that how he cannot
control his anger forsure oneday he will
take it out on your children when your not
around and if you see it what are you
going to do about it?? let it pass?? that
is just wrong. he's your husband and he's
not treating you emotionally well then
it's NOT going to stop,, at that age
stubborn men will never change and if they
tel you they will u SHOULD set a line
where ENOUGH is ENOUGH, your leaving!
TRUST me your life will change for the
BETTER, u will not waste useless time and
tears over something rediculous.
Honestly, ur husband is a REAL Jer.K,, who
know's maybe he has someone else on the
side that's why he's treating you like the
way he is, he has no respect or manners
for the person who he so calls lover, i
don't think he has any feelings for you,
it probably makes him happy to see u sad,
don't let it effect you, u have to be
strong and stand tough..
my advice is if u want to give him another
chance just let him know that the next
time he does this to u then u will leave
him for good! don't worry people get
divorces all the time it's normal, many
people are more happy that way. U don't
need to depend on any one you have to
start becoming independent!
i wish u the best, make the righ decision
for yourself, kids, and the future.
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J3nnyuk
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Sep 2008 Posts: 55 Location: manchester, england
Posted: 09-08-08 16:01pm
i agree, u deserve someone who is going to
love and respect you for who you are and
he shouldn't be treating you this way if
it has been going on for so long it
doesn't sound like it will ever change am
sorry good luck
