Married 2 month never fought till we got married.

How exactly did you date, living 86 miles apart?

Getting married and moving in together are big adjustments. People don't realize how much it will change things. My husband and I were together six years by the time we got married. Our first wedding anniversary is two weeks away and we are separated. It is very hard, but how you deal with your problem right now is very important because it is going to lay the foundation for the rest of your marriage. I suggest you see a marriage counselor. A lot of people think that seeing one means that you can't work your problems out, but that isn't true. It is best to have a third party step in and put things into perspective.

It sounds like you both need to work on not criticizing each other and not letting your disagreements escalate. It is hard, but it can be done.

We saw each other every wknd. I would drive there and see him. On my days off I would go there trust me we saw each other 3-4 times a wk Like alot of people mwho work and date.

You are right and we have talked about seeing someone. It is getting better cause you are right we was always putting each other down and I would blame him and he blame me. Ty for the wonderful comment and I hope it all works out for you!!

When my husband and I got married, we were told that learning to live with another person was was one of the hardest things we would ever do. The people that told us that were right. It has been hard, but I have just tried not to take his moods too personally, and that has helped. I won't say that our life is perfect, but I wouldn't trade it for anyone else's life. My husband was always a very negative person (he was never that way to me when we were dating) and I have found that my positivity has had an influence on him. I am not saying that I have the power to change him, only that our attitudes affect the people around us. Remember you have only been together for a year, it takes a long, long time to get to know someone. By the way, I was told that the first five years of marriage are the most difficult.

People do change after marriage, I have noticed this even though the couple in question do not. Go to a councelor and get some help.

It took me a long time and three marriages to figure it out for myself. Dating is sort of a partnership in crime kinda deal. But, once you have signed that nuptual paper it seems to emmediatly turn into an ownership fight. Who owns who? Does he own you or do you own him. Marriage should still be a partnership with both parties equally taking part in every sense of the word. No hidden gems or paintings etc in the bank safe deposite box. Marriage is an equal opportunity part of life.

It sounds like you two need to sit down and talk openly about everything that is going on between you, god and bad, not just between the two of you, but in life in general as well.

Believe it or not, not fighting is not nessisarily a good thing. Everyone has a problem with somebody at one point or another no matter how much they care for them.

Fighting is a healthy part of any relationship as long as the disagreement is resolved in in efficient manner.

If something bothers you, tell your partener as soon as possible. (in an open, but easygoing manner. . . ex: I don't understand why we've been fighting more lately and it's worying me, what is it that's bothering you so much?) This is not naging. It is solving a problem before it gets worse.

The first three months my husband and I were dating we never faught even though he did things that often bothered or upset me. When I eventually brought these things up to him, I can immagine that it felt like I was attacking him.

After that we constantly tried to keep open doors to communication no matter what the ussue was. We moved in together and I was surprised that we didn't have many issues because we already knew everything about each other. Even the annoying habbits.

I hope things work out well for you!