Actually he is not stubborn, but pretty hooked on pot...Enough that making love comes in second...Until he is ready to put this mind altering buzz where it belongs, you are talking to yourself...Even then he will have to learn a new person...Believe me, I sympathize with you...It is the filling of man that completes a woman...Has he tried Viagra or any other erectile help medication?......

Caroline

My boyfriend of 6 years has smoke marijuana for approx 20 years. He had occasional issues with maintaining an erection when we first started dating and it has gotten worse. I've had long term relationships with other men prior to my current boyfriend and was always a nympho with them. I started out this way with current also but quickly realized that once a day was all he could handle. It is incredibly frustrating and it really bothers me. I cannot help but think it's me. He says it isn't but... I don't feel sexy when he goes soft. He quick smoking marijuana approx 6 weeks ago and... we have had sex only 3 times in those 6 weeks. The first time, (a few days after he quit), it did not go well at all. The second time, (week number 3) it was better, but could have been harder. The 3rd time was 2 days ago and it was good but... still could have been better. So... I'm seeing gradual improvement and hope that very soon I will have the kind of sex life with him that I have had with other men in the past. My best friend has the same issues with her husband who has smoked marijuana for approx 25 years and she is dealing with the same frustration, embarrassment and hurt that I am. You really need to talk with him about it because it will only get in between you. You have to be able to talk openly and he needs to know how it makes you feel. Before I finally said anything to my boyfriend, I had gotten to the point that sometimes I would go in the bathroom and cry after sex. Very early in our relationship I learned that if I waited about 2 weeks in between having sex it would turn out better.