Many Kidney stones need some help PLEASE ASAP!!!!

I am a 25 year old female, and I have been dealing with kidney stones since I was 23, in this 2 year period I have had a little over 40 kidney stones, which none have ever passed they have just been in the kidney and grew. I get them on both sides.. No doctor have ever really given me any answers but just wanting to put me and all these meds, and all ove my lab work and urine test have always came back different each time! This time I have 5 kidney stones on my left side through the ultra sound that they could see they think the biggest one is 5-6mm and I have 4 on the right side between 2-4mm, I have had three lithotripsy's in the last 2 years and I am so tired of all this for some reason the stones will never pass no matter what I do, lately I have been throwing up, I feel so tired can't sleep and this horrible dull pain on my left flank that comes and goes and keeps me awake no matter what I do or take, the pain meds don't always work, and I have all these ct scans kub scans and ultra sounds and they say the stone in non obstructing so that is not why you have pain, but I feel like I am dying its the worst pain ever, I am literally pushing so hard just to use the bathroom and only little comes out!! and now its giving me the worst panic attacks and I am tired of dealing with this day to day I am to young and I just want to be healthy and live my life, I have done all the diet things they told me been on the diuretic pills, the lemonade all the fluids!!! I hope someone can write me back with some answers please!! I am asking for one more lithotripsy on hoping that I can strain them and get a sample of some stone for them to analyze, because I have never had a doctor after any of my litho's ask for samples or even take one out! SO PLEASE SOME HELP!!!!! Thank you