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Q: Man Overboard
asked by: movingonup on July 2nd, 2009
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I feel like this point in my life I need to vent. I'm 24 years old, yes I'm young! I'm a good hearted guy with a good personality. But I ask everyday... why? why dont girls come after me? Why don't I have girls in my life? I had one girlfriend back in highschool, I can hold a relationship.... I just don't get it... since 2004 I have had zero love interests... one girl back in october i made outwith i was seeing for 2 weeks then totally dissappered I don't even count that.

I just get so down sometimes...like when I'm walking around the mall.. or a club and you see these gorgeous women with these trashy/douchebag guys walking around. I always think.. why can't I have a woman like that? I work hard everyday, im kind hearted, im really funny.. jim carrey funny, yes that's how i act wild, and I like me, im good looking i have a well rounded personality, I have good friends, i know some girls find me "weird" since I have alot of energy and just being me. Sorry for acting funny and trying to keep things fresh.

I deserve a great girl and a great relationship. I have tried everything... dating sites, going to clubs week after week, and it seems like I'm just that guy not meant to be with a nice girl.

it feels really great to get this off my chest... I'm a happy guy with good friends who goes about his daily business...

But this isnt highschool and looking for a date to the dance. I need a woman in my life and it hurts that girls just.. well dont notice me.

well enough for now! any informative posts are welcome thanks!!!!
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ServiceU
replied on July 5th, 2009
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did you register with myspace, facebook and the other one.
i m a women and i remember when i went through a dry spell i called a dateline. i had fun, and met a lot of nice people. date lines are usually advertised in the weekly paper.
i've been in a relationship for two years now, but i remember i was single around your age and i wanted to be with someone really bad, and was hurt when i seen couples together.
sometimes you find someone when your not looking.
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slowcheetah
replied on July 10th, 2009
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Man Overboard (blink-182?) lol,
This may sound cheesy but I'm gonna give you my advice anyways. I believe that everything happens for a reason, and maybe you are just not ready to be in love this moment, you need to stop looking and something will come to you! trust me, just stay positive and something good will come your way, maybe your soul mate is just looking for you right now, give it time! You cant rush love!
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W0LF
replied on July 12th, 2009
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I'm hoping this isn't news but women aren't ever going to come after you. Women aren't agressors in courtship. With all but the most extreme exceptions men allways initiate contact with women. A lot of women will drop hints but you shouldn't even count on that. Work under the assumption that nothing romantic will happen in your life unless you make it happen.

Most men who aren't having luck with women aren't approaching the right ones. You may have your standards set to high or the things you find attractive in women may have you chasing women that aren't looking for man. Broaden your search, lower your standards. Be alert to what women around you are doing, approach women that show an interrest in you. Most likely there's at least one woman in your social circle that has allways been interrested in you but doesn't have the courage to find out if you feel the same way.

The fact that you point out that you're good hearted and that these other girls are dating douchebags leads me to believe that you're being a little too nice. At 24 considderation, generousity and genuineness come off as desperation. Most of the girls your age are deeply consumed with realistic expectations and are much less interrested in the men they can have then he ones that act like they're too good for them. A little bit less interrest in dating makes it a lot easier to meet women as odd as that sounds.

If your personality is too intense for a girl what would your chances of a long term relationship with them be anyhow? Move on quickly from girls that seem anxious about your energy level. If you're a commedian look for girls that have a great laugh.

You may not be so great looking. Hard words but our self-perception is rarely very accurate. You're best to have a friend tell you if they think you're good-looking. Women may seem like a good source for this info but very few women seduce and date women and every woman has a somewhat different idea of attractive. Have a guy-friend who seems to have a lot of success with women give you an honest opinion about you from hair to clothes to grooming.

Clubs are a bad place to meet women. It's hard to have conversations there and women have a lot of better places to go if they want to meet a guy. Most of them are there to be with female friends or dance. If you have a great confident personality and are good at approaching women you should try a singles group. Most cities have activity groups restricted to singles, kind of like a meat-market but on a biking trip or a comedy club instead of a bar.
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movingonup
replied on July 13th, 2009
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slow cheetah I appreciate your response.. I will never lower my standards nor let someone say I'm not good looking. I'm amazing in and out.

I come to realize slow cheetah that I believe in the same thing. Can't rush love.
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slowcheetah
replied on July 14th, 2009
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Glad I could supply you with my words of wisdom!haha Smile
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