do you feel good and happy and satisfied with who you are?
if you do then I think you must be one rare human being because up to now I don't think I can think of many people I know and I have met that are completely happy with themselves.
I know that i am not happy with who i am...its a feeling I have and it has lasted from my childhood right up to now.
for example even when i had hair...(I'm bald now)...I still felt unsatisfied with myself...I think part of the reason was because i was always very shy and didn't have much self confidence.
i felt like half a person...i may have had a lot more hair on my head than i have now...i was slimmer...etc etc but i still felt unsatisfied.
and i find that now i am older and when i see young people with hair and they are slim etc and wearing all the fashionable clothes i start to feel unhappy again...but i think I'm deluding myself because happiness and a calm heart or whatever surely doesn't come just because one is slim, has all the latest clothes and is young?
I know that having the basics takes away some of the anxieties of life but I still don't know why I feel so unhappy with who i am?
i know exactly how you feel! If you dont mind me asking, How old are you? i'm in that stage where i have hair and all these clothes but still i am not satisfied with it. i dont know what it really is but, soon i might grow out of that phase and you should to!.. who says you cant wear fashionable clothes!! Whether your old or young you can wear any clothes you want to. You only have one life to live and you should make the best of it..You area beautiful person and should not feel that way so put on your most fashinable clothes and go out and hae fun with some friends!! hope this helps:)
thanks for your reply.
sorry I took so long to respond...first I have not been on here since I lasted posted and I had also gone to stay with a good friend for two days in the week so i wasn't @ home till Thursday onwards and I only just logged back into my profile this morning.
anyway it is good to know that you can relate to me and decided to write...i really appreciate that.
right...I am 45 years old...i was born on Feb 26th 1967
I have always been a very shy and insecure person Ali.
and even though lately I am starting to be a bit brave and wear what I would normally be too scared to wear because they make me stand out and because I'm so shy I prefer not to be noticed.
do I sound complex to you?
if so you would be right because I am...it's funny because although i am very shy I do want to be noticed and as i get older I worry that i will just be forgotten even more because I am old.
as for clothes i have been updating my wardrobe while i can afford to and buying some nice clothes and other things...I 'm thinking of buying a silver jack and Jones jacket...that will be a first for me because i don't normally wear such bright clothes but i want to change my image a bit so i might buy it.
also thanks for giving me such positive encouragement...that's exactly what I need...i need to remind myself of exactly what you said in your post that i can be who i want to be and wear what i want and try to enjoy life and i am slowly starting to do that...please keep in touch and thanks again.
best wishes from Trevor xxx