lost my son at almost 22 weeks (Page 2)

I am sorry to hear of your losses. I have a son who is 8 yrs old born at 30weeks, stayed in the NICU for 49 days in 2002. He is a perfect 3rd grader now!!! In 2006 I got pregnant for the 2nd time and we were so excited to give my son a sibling but at 22 wks and 4 days my son Landon was born alive, my water had broken and there was no stopping the final outcome!!! The reason I am posting this is to let everyone know that everything happens for a reason!! I got pregnant again in 2007 and had a cervical cerglage put in at 13wks, had 17p shots from 17 wks to 34 wks we now have a almost 3yr old son Blake but I would not have him if I had not suffered through the loss of my Landon. Of course it hurts to have loss such a beautiful child and I will remember him always but Blake brings me such joy and when he says I love you mommy it makes it all worth it in the end!!! Girls keep your heads high and grieve for what you have lost but look forward to what you will have in the future!! I hope this helps someone who is hurting because I have been where you are and I survived and so can you, you owe that to your future children.........;)One other thing when someone ask me how many children I have I always say I have had 3 sons just that one lives in heaven...I don't know how long I will do that but I feel like everybody should know he did exist and I did love him very, very much!!!

hi my name is rebecca. im so so sorry to hear of your losses. you dont ever get over it just learn to live with it i guess. i too lost a baby boy, we named him Bo, at 19 weeks 5days. i had mild cramps an just thought i neaded a number two! i had no severe pain or bleeding but when i realised something was wrong i called an ambalance. my 13 month old daughter was in bed an my partner was out for the night, i was on my own an terrified. when i finally got to the hospital that friday evening i was told the babies heartbeat was fine, plus i could feel it moving, and after a quick look by the midwife she told me it was looking like everything was ok. no bleeding and my waters hadnt broke. a couple of hours later i had an internal and thats when myself and partner were told the deverstating news that i had dialated 4cms and there was nothing they could do to stop labour or save my baby as it was to premature. i was put on a ward over night with my legs up to try an stop my cervix opening any more. all night i could feel my baby wiggling around an kept checking myself for blood or water but nothing, i felt fine so hoped. but by lunch time on the saturday another examination confirmed i was 7-8 cms dialted. i was explained to again that although the baby was fine now it wouldnt survive the birth. after that it was horriic, the pain emotionally and physically. the baby was passed to me and i was told it was a boy. he died at birth. that was november last year. i have come off my antidepressants this week. i consider myself lucky that i had my daughter as i know i would of just given up if it wasnt for her. i still find myself looking for answers as to what went wrong but i have accepted i may never know. i feel ready to try for another baby but i am terrified of this happening again. one doctor suggested a weak cervix, but who knows. do i take the risk?

I lost my son at 22 weeks and i dont know why it's hard to deal with... i went to the the doctor office on Jan. 18,2011 to hear his heart beat and thats when i realize she couldn't find it. when i was told to go get a ultrasound i knew that my worst nightmare came true. I'm trying to figure out a way to get through this, but it's hard right now!!!

im so sorry for your loss its a very difficult thing to get through. i know as we have just gone through the same thing. we went for scan at 23 weeks and doc found no heartbeat. we delivered our beautiful boy Sonny on 20th june 2011. he was perfect. a month on and im only starting to grieve i think i have been numb for the last while - now the pain comes and its almost unbearable. i started back to work last week and thats when it really hit me. seeing so many pregnant women and couples with babies and children is really difficult. we had a miscarriage in nov 10 at 8 weeks and i wonder if we are ever going to have the baby we want. how are you coping with your loss now?? i wish you best wishes for the future

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First of all i like to say sorry for ur loss..My older sister has just lost her son at 23 weeks he was born 23rd march 2011 through emergency caesarian,she got pregnant after 15 years for the first time through IVF, her placenta popped and she start bleeding heavily and they had to do an emergency caesarian because her life was in danger to because she lost a lot of blood,however she stayed in ICU for a night but is much better physically but emotionally my big sister is broken she got preg after 15 yrs and can't help crying why did has happend,everyone else in my fam are devastated and no one can really believe this had happened to her and we all are asking the same question why her,but we all know this was ment to happen and no one can do anything but just pray that she gets pregnant again and have a healthy baby...
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aw! i am soo sorry! my brother and his gf lost their baby at like 20 weeks, ive seen the destruction , i am terribly sorry and hope you are ok!

I lost my son at 22 weeks on oct 18 2011 some days I fell like I'll be ok and others I don't know what to do I'm 21 and this was my first pregnancy my water broke at 18 weeks and 4 days and I was put on bed rest or I could have induced I went on bed rest and had ultra sounds to check the fluid it had gone way up from 2 cm to 7 cm and my son had a very strong heart beat then I started bleeding at 21 weeks and 3 days and by the time I went to the hospital a few days later because I only blead slightly and then it would stop I called the doctor and they sent me to the hospital to get an evaluation when they finally did an ultra sound there was no fluid at all and his head was crushed so no matter what I did he wouldn't have made it I'm broken I have his urn and pictures up in my room and I just cry when I see him but at the same time I'm so thankful I did get to hold him and keep him with me until I left the hospital some days I'm fine but days like today 3 weeks to the day from when I lost him I don't do good and just feel like it's my fault and reading these post just made me cry I'm soooo sorry for the loss of your beautiful babies an god bless <3 Jalontae Noel 10-18-11

my heart is heavy for every post. our baby girl passed away on 10/14/11. 22 weeks, 1 day and 7.5 hours. 1 lb 1.8oz, about 11 inches long. my water broke at 21 weeks and i went into labor a few days later. she didn't have a heartbeat when she was born according to the dr and nurse. and, i know that i felt her kicking the day before i went into labor. before going into labor, every day we were told that our baby is not "viable" and that if she were born before 24 weeks that she wouldn't live. so they were pretty much treating us as if she were already gone before i even went into labor. it's hurtful to have those cold "medical" eyes referring to the life inside you as "not viable". and it's hurtful to have such a helpless feeling, to sit in the hospital wanting to save your daughter's life, but not have the power or means to do so. it's a month later and i still have very bad breakdowns, battling depression everyday. my womb is still adjusting, so people still stare and smile at me asking if i'm having a girl or boy. to go thru the pain of child birth...epidural, contractions and come home empty-handed has left a huge hole in my heart. the first couple of weeks were awful because my body felt pregnant, but was empty. it's as if she took a piece of me with her. my faith keeps me sane in the most painful place my heart has ever ventured. first time mom...first grandbaby. we were blessed in that we were able to hold her and the hospital chaplain gave us beautiful keepsakes, pics, and a teddy bear. i sleep with the teddy bear every night. i look at her pics all of the time, and after all of this, i still consider myself a "mommy", and i know that my firstborn is in heaven.

I am VERY sorry for all of your lost. I lost my baby girl on Saturday 5/12/2012 she was 22.4 ks old really 22 weeks. I am in so much pain in every way, but I much say the doctors and my nurse Megan was the ones that got me through this, along with my daughter and husband. The lady that spoke and said that they did not allow her to see her baby!! I am sorry I would of hurt someone in the hospital and they would of had to send me to jail, because I just lost my child? Sorry I can not say how sorry I am for your lost.

Ladies the one thing that I can say with conviction is when getting medical care and og-gyn care chose your hospital wisely. Every hospital is different. Some hospitals will try to save your baby at 23 weeks others anything under 24 weeks they will not touch.

My story this is the second lost that I have had, my first he was 17 weeks there was nothing anyone could do to save him he was just too small, my second was 22 weeks my water broke but if I was able to keep her in for just 2 weeks they would be able to try to say her. Ladies the thing is I wanted my little girl to live and I wanted the doctors to do everything possible to save her but even if I did not get an infection and go into labor the pain that my little girl would have to endure I asked myself would I make myself put her through that much pain just because I love her and want her?

I wanted to bring her home soooo badly and wanted to take care of her sooo badly and I wanted the doctors to do whatever possible to save her soooo badly, but most importantly I wanted the WILL of GOD most importantly. I miss having her kick me at night and my husband smiling when he put his hand on my belly and she kick him back, but my little girl is not feeling any pain any more and for a short time she was alive and I was able to say goodbye and kiss her and I know that she knew how much I love her, and how much I wanted her.

Chose your place of care VERY wisely because it will be where if things does go wrong your healing moves along as it should because of the care you got when you needed it the most.

I know that I have a long recovery ahead of me and I am about to take my meds at the moment but if anyone wants to send me a message, please do and if you have questions I would love to answer them for you..

We lost our little boy at 21 weeks on March 21st 2012..I'm older and getting pregnant was a surprise to us both. But a wonderful surprise..We went for a Ultrasound to find out the sex and discovered his heart had stopped beating.. Our hearts are broken and we are afraid to try again. Our Dr. said it was a genetic issue and we could test earlier...I just don't know if I could bare the pain a second time.
I'm so sorry for your loss and send prayers and hugs. I was lucky enough to have a wonderful nurse who was there for me the whole time and even cried with me.

Am soo sorry fro the loss that only one who has lost one can fully understand what it takes.i just lost my baby boy jeremy at 20 weeks four days back and i know an running mad, i hada cerclage fixed but this didnt help either , got an infection and that was it..still confused on what really hapened but doctors say green waters means infection!..i need help to stay sane..am so scared of being alone and idle

Sorry to hear about ur loss I lost my baby boy at 25 weeks, the cause is still
Unknown because I had no symptoms or signs, no bleeding or cramps at all. The
Weeks before he passed away I had been sent for an ultrasound because I was having
Decreased fetal movement. He was 100% fine at the scan, he was moving lots but
I couldn't feel it, so I just assumed it was because of my anterior placenta but a week after
That scan I couldn't feel him at all, I contacted my midwife & she referred me to the hospital
Were they confirmed he had passed away. It is really hard at the moment as I am
Back at work were the majority of the girls are pregnant. I just hope they can
Eventually find out what went wrong

i am the most stupidest mother to be in the world, aft few days my baby dont have momement i jz go and see doctor, i really duno baby wil kick everyday, i thought some times baby sleeping.. my stupid coz me lost my baby on week 23. i never think will lost coz all the scanning, oscar scan had shown my baby healthy.. heart very pain till cant breath..

So sorry to hear all of your losses. Currently there is a film in production about the hardships of stillbirth loss.
We hope you support the film and bring attention to stillbirth, so we can work together to break the silence.

I am sorry for everyone who has had to deal with this. My wife and I lost our son Michael Jr. 9/14/12 and we're still broken! I had years of plans in my mind and Finding a new normal is next to impossible. My wife had a perfect pregnancy and he was due 2 days from then. I still find it incomprehensible that there couldn't have been something done to prevent this! Michael you are more missed then I could ever express! I would do anything to be able to put you here with us; or take your place forever for you to be with your mom. You were here and you mattered and it may take me some time but I will make sure your effect on us can be pointed to as a reason for a change for good. FOREVER LOVED MLMCDJR LOVE YOUR FATHER, MIKE SR

I lost my baby at 16 weeks, and had a d an c 1 week ago! I am terrified that I might not be able to get my life every time I see a baby I cry. I am good person and did everything right.
I feel soma lone.