hi kandersonn...i do think that stress can have the effect of cancelling out our libido. i think what we have to do to combat that is to "force" our focus on not only our stress, but also on our "LIFE".

what i mean by saying that is i think we need to make sure that we don't allow our stress to get in the way of us having a happy life. the important thing to us should be having a happy life, not dealing with stress.

i know the stress comes along whether or not we choose it, but i think we can choose how we deal with it and how we react to it.

try this. don't allow stress to overtake your right to live a fulfilled life.

i say this and i'll tell you upfront that i'm younger than some ppl on here. let me share with you though that i am no stranger to having stress. my mom died 13 years ago and i was in a very "formative" stage at that time. my dad did the best he could with us, but i can assure you that i've seen some stresses that most young ppl don't have at my age.

i'm a happy, well adjusted person and i think the reason i am that way is that in the face of all the stress in my life, i never allowed it to take over my life. i didn't allow it to consume me. i kept my faith in God and my trust in Him and my focus on living a happy fulfilled life. other than that, there's not much to share. no drugs or psychiatrists needed. it's all up to you. if you don't allow stress to overcome you then it won't. it's your choice.

jasmine

Hi Jasmine,

Thanks for your reply, as you said it is right that if you don't allow stress to overcome you then it will not harm you. Sometimes stress is good as it can give us passion and an aim to work towards achieving a particular goal. It works as a positive impact but if stress crosses its limit and you over stress yourself then it will be bad for your health.

Sometimes excessive stress can be turned into Anxiety and then it becomes difficult to control it and you see the impact of it on your day to day life.

As per your opinion one should not allow stress to creep up but sometimes it happens that you can not control it and then you feel the heat.
Can you suggest me then what one can do or he should do in such cases? As you said no drugs or psychiatrists needed but then if you suffer from anxiety then how you will control it?

Please suggest me something on this.

hi kandersonn

i have a few suggestions for your friend. when stress creeps up on us and makes a real "anxiety" situation, then it's really a lot more difficult to resolve than just to say "don't let it get to you". below are my suggestions.

1) give all her problems and stress up to God. i don't know if you or she believes in God, but honestly this is what i do. what happens as a result is that overwhelmingly, things get better quickly. sometimes He takes my problems away or fixes them and sometimes He equips me to better deal with a problem that doesn't go away. Faith can do so much for someone who's hurting.

2) if God isn't an option for her, and i understand that everyone isn't all about Him and i'm not trying to push Him off on anyone...but...
what i would recommend that since she knows now she has a problem, 1/2 the battle has already been fought. what she needs to do is to uplift herself in positivism. some days are great and some are terrible, so you take the great days and love them. the terrible days...well you find some shred of goodness in them too and you push forward. time carries on and i'd tell your friend that if things are bad now, not to worry because nothing ever stays the same. this will change too.

i'd also tell her that her attitude will determine her success. if she tries to succeed and has a positive attitude about it, then 99% chance she will succeed. if she has a bad attitude and thinks she will fail, 99% chance she will fail.

so to put the whole thing kinda concisely...it's either all up to God or it's all up to her (your friend). let her know that no matter how she solves her problem, it's going to be up to either her or God. no person other than herself can do it for her. she has to pick herself up.

i understand how debilitating anxiety can be. when you gave me some more information about this, i feel like i understand a lot more about what to say that may help (i hope it helps). if your friend has a severe problem, then psychiatrists and drugs may have to be part of the solution. prior to going that route, however i'd try the other. that's just me

i hope it gets better for your friend. if you want to discuss this more, i'll be happy to discuss it further with you.
jasmine

kandersonn,
one last thing. i just wanted to tell you that i think you must be an awesome friend to her. you must love her a lot to try to help her solve her problems. i hope someday i can be that good of a friend to someone.
cheers to you kandersonn!
jasmine

Hey Jasmine,

First of all thanks for your complement but really i m not doing anything great as thats the meaning of a friend who can help u in ur odd times.
Another thing is why i m trying this is because even other people will come to know about this problem and there will be awareness about it.

For your solution then I agree that you should have some faith in someone but it doesn't mean that you will leave everything on him and then just wait for a result. Even you need to approach towards the problem with your solution so that there will some efforts from your side.

Second thing is its not only about the stress but also the loss of sexual desire. So to overcome of it do you have any solution for that because I heard that there are some herbal pills are available in the market which can be very effective.

Anyways thanks for your opinions and yes you are also a very good human being that is why you are keep replyiing to my post.

Thanks again

Hi kandersonn

Most of the people are suggesting from the emotional point of view but sometimes the problem level is difficult from physical aspects that we should not avoid it. Loss of sexual desire is nothing but losing interest from making love.

Ofcourse faith, spending time can be the solution for that but if it is imbalancing of hormones then you need proper medication for that.
There are various supplements and options available, but one always looks for long term, effective and risk free solution. Herbal pills are available and they possess all the quality like herbal, natural, safe, effective, no side effects and even prescription free. but you have to be very selective while opting. As all are differ in ingredients also. So do proper research before going ahead.

If you find out some thing then i would like to share your views and feedback.
Thanks Have a healthy life

outstanding point 2fatto. there is a very distinct possibility that there is a physiological reason for kandersonn's friend's issues. this can't be ignored. kandersonn, has your friend been to the doctor to investigate and see if there's some kind of physiological reason for her lack of desire?
jasmine