why do you want to lose your virginity your only 13 and you shouldnt even be thinking about having sex because your to young i am 20 yrs old and im still a virgin and i dont think there is anything wrong with being a virgin because i believe in losing my virginity when im married call me old fashion but you should really think about it and really hard because once you lose it theres no way of getting it back and later on your gonna regret it because i assure you that the person your with right now is not the one your going to be with in high school or college and you should really talk to someone you trust if you do decide to do this and if you do remember to use protection because you could get an std or pregnant so be carefull and dont try to grow up so fast o and remember that your virginity is a gift from God so dont just trow it away

ya that is true mm i dunno i am just wonderin tho ....

if your wondering your thinking of doing it

well honestly yes i want to ...

why exactly do you want to

At 13, you feel really old and mature, ready to handle anything, but when you get a bit older you realise that you were still a kid, and that 13 seems really young. I would recommend waiting until you know what you're in for, and you're with the right guy, or you might just end up regretting it. Whatever your friends are saying probably isn't true, so don't feel pressured into having sex just because they're doing it.
The questions you're asking shows that you're not very educated about sex, which is no surprise at 13. You are not ready.

WAIT.

I agree. I wish sometimes that I waited to lose my virginity until I was atleast 16, i lost it a couple days before my 15th birthday. I was with the right guy, who I'm still with actually after a couple years, and I don't regret my decision. But really, I promise you that if you wait it will be 10 times better.
But, if you want your question answered then, sure. But first of all, what do you mean by an older man? Having sex with someone much older than you is also a big mistake, and depending on his age it could be illegal.
After having sex once, it wont hurt. The first time is different for a lot of people depending on a lot of things.

I really think you should consider this. It's normal to be sexually curious at your age but I really think you'd appreciate it and love it more when your older. Hope I helped

my first time did hurt..it was very uncomfortable but the second time was even worse. everyone is different though. i remeber when i was your age (or maybe a bit older) hearing about it, wondering about it. i have to say, and im sure alot of people would agree with me...its not all its cracked up to be. at 13 it is completly normal to be curious. but the wondering and waiting are an important part of discovering yourself. you are creating you. enjoy your 'age of innocence'. we all get into such a rush to grow up that we forget to live! you will NEVER hear an adult say "man, im glad im done with childhood!". instead you hear "oh, to be young again!". i regret losing mine at such an early age and have often wished that i would of waited. at least untill i was older. or in love. curiousity got the best of me and now i have something else to regret. isnt there enough to regret in life? its such a wonderous experience and can gift to give to someone that you love. not only that, but at 13, you are not completley developed physically. please, wait. just a few more years. also, im not sure what you meant by 'older man' but honey, believe me, there is something wrong with that. and could be illegal. you have to know, its illegal for a reason. if you need anything ofr anyone to talk to, you can msg me anytime. totally nonjudgmental. good luck to you!

I have to disagree with this as it is not OK.

this older MAN should not even think of doing somthing like that with a little child you have just turned a teenager.

your young your body is still developing hormones and your periods puberty and other changes your a child i see where your coming from feeling flatters teenage puppy love. But honey you should be having fun living your childhood
this man should not be around children my sisters around your age and i cannot imagine her telling me that ?

maybe you should tell your parents about it this man maybe should be questioned by police if he has ever done anything to you .

dont be foolish darling your worth more

i also see your boyfriend is ONLINE you havent met him
i really think this is a police matter PEDOPHILES are always somthing everyone any age should think about he also tells you he has panic attacks like some sad story please DO NOT MEET THIS MAN !!!!!!!

You dont know HIS AGE REALLY or what he COULD BE CAPABLE off

Honey, it's going to hurt no matter who you do it with. Please wait for the right guy. BTW, if this guy is over 18, then he could be pressed for charges of sexual assault on a minor.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin. I was one til after I got married when I was 19. You don't have to do something because everyone else is doing it, especially when it hurts you or it's something that you will regret later on, and I can say almost 100 percent surely that you will.

Hooray for us old-schoolers

Ms. Cuteo, The first thing you want to do is live to grow up. Becoming involved with a stranger who can't find sex with a woman his own age is putting yourself at great risk. Think about it - if a man has to look for girls so young and inexperienced that he can talk them into having sex with a stranger, there must be something not quite right about him. You don't know if he has AIDS, herpes, syphillis, the clap, crabs or if he is crazy. Do you really want to be alone with someone who could turn out to want to hurt you?
You can take your own power and decide who YOU want to lose your virginity to-surely there is some boy your own age who is wanting the same thing. I wish l could say that everyone was going to wait until they fall in love, but I know that is a waste of breath. Find someone you have something in common with and who you trust. Take all safety precautions - use rubbers - meet somewhere safe and try to have an honest conversation with yourself and with who ever you choose. If you want to do something as grown up as having sex please approach it in a grown up way. Good Luck!

For all you older people to comment this that are being judgmental, it's wrong. She needs help, okay? I understand you and agree with most of what your saying but you don't necessarily know where she is coming from. And maybe this *older guy* isn't a pedophile or illegal, for all we know he could be 15 or 16 and she's known hum awhile. there are possibilities that they could be what you said but seriously, don't all ways jump to the worst conclusions.

Cuteo, if you need some one to talk to that knows what your going through you can message me I am 14 almost 15 and i have had sex already. I will tell you my first time did not hurt. But like they said everyone is different. Please tell me how long you have known this person and how old they are. TWO VERY IMPORTANT THINGS TO THINK ABOUT. If you don't know him all that well and your just anxious PLEASE don't do it, i almost made the bad decision to do that but we never had the opportunity so im very glad for that. I lost my virginity to a boyfriend i have had for 2 years. I did not let him pressure me into anything, and you need to look out for that too. I made sure that he respected me and was with me because he loved me. You should make sure of that too, bc if this guy just wants you for that your giving away a big part of yourself emotionally that this guy is just gonna trash and then he is gonna leave. Trust me, it's a very sad experience, my friends have went through it and one of them tried to even kill herself bc of it. PLEASE DO NOT DO THAT IF THIS HAPPENS! I would suggest you educate yourself on sex, male & female anatomy, and how it all functions in different ways before you have sex. Also you need to know yourself, explore your body and mind. make sure everything feels right to you and that you know what you like and don't like so that you make things as enjoyable as possible. I hope you make good decisions. Oh! and very good advice from healthlp, approach it in a mature way, be educated, protected, and emotionally & mentally stable before you have sex. I hope i helped! And remember!!.... If you need any advice or help with any question about ANYTHING you can feel free to message me I wont give you crap, i will tell you about what you ask and i wont give you fake stuff. Make good decisions!

well.. it would hurt you or it wouldn't hurt you at all.. it depends on how you'll do it..specially if the guy really know what he's doing..

despite... i agree to them.. keep your virginity..
coz it's the only gift you can give to your future husband..

more power..

I'm 23 and I AM very glad I'm done with childhood! I would have liked to skip childhood and start life at age 18. lost my virginity at 12 and I enjoyed it, don't regret anything. you people live small boring lives. Go for it Victoria! if you feel ready your ready! just use protection and make sure he does everything slow and easy. kenneth0607 NO! just plain no virginity is not a gift! you are what the man should want! YOU are the gift!