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so i've wanted to save my virginity till i met a guy i truly loved, but last night i was with this guy and one thing led to another and he started to finger me. now if i would said stop.. then he would of, but i liked the feeling so much that i didnt want him too. can you loose your virginity from being fingered.. and he used two fingers. Question
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replied December 15th, 2009
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It depends on who you ask. Virginity is usually defined by society is having had sex, which you have. Biblically you stop being a virgin when you are enterred by a man or in some cases when your hymen is broken, yes on either. Some people define virginity being lost as having a penis enter the vagina, of course that would mean every lesbian porn queen was also a virgin. You can define your virginity any way that's important to you. The key notes here are that you had consensual sex, it was something you enjoyed, and you're allright. You're all good hon.
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replied December 15th, 2009
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Virginity in some respects is a state of mind. If you want to call yourself a virgin, since his penis didn't actually enter your vagina, there isn't any "virginity police" that is going to come and arrest you. It's up to you.

However, I would like to caution you about what happened. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with what you did. What I would like to say is that you crossed your own boundary in terms of morals/wishes/ideals because you went farther with "this guy" than you had wanted to before. You wanted to wait for someone you really loved when, I assume, it was a special moment, not just a "one thing lead to another" type of thing. Again, I'm not saying what you did was wrong or dirty. I'm just cautioning you to know what you want before it happens. Have the line drawn in your mind about how far you want things to go and stick with it, no matter how things feel. That way, you won't feel bad about things after and you'll keep yourself out of trouble.

And when you do have sex in the future, be sure to keep things safe--condoms (to prevent pregnancy and the spread of STDS) and perhaps even birth control pills (to be extra safe). That way, you won't be writing to us again about a missed period situation--we see way too many of those here.

In the mean time, just relax and do what you want to do, what you think is right, not what you think you should do or what anyone else expects of you (especially the guy). Okay?
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replied December 15th, 2009
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it was not as if he forced me or if i felt that i had to, but im comfortable with him and it felt right, we both like eachother alot, i just dont want to loose my virginity to a figer? but i was told, unless a penis enters your vagina, you are still a virgin, because the hymen can be broken in many ways.
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replied December 15th, 2009
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Generally people mean that you hymen can be broken without sexual contact. I would be leery of telling future boyfriends that you're a virgin without qualifying that you've had someone masturbate you.
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replied December 15th, 2009
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I wasn't implying that you were forced. You made it clear that you weren't. I was only saying that in your original post, it sounded like you went farther than you had previously intended to. You also originally made it sound like you didn't know the guy that well. I'm glad to hear it's a guy you really like and someone you feel comfortable with.

I agree with Wolf about the fact that you should feel free to call yourself a virgin, but be honest with future guys about your previous experiences, especially if you expect them to be honest with you. You don't have to go into too much detail, just the facts. You can even say that you've had some sexual contact, but didn't actually have intercourse.
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replied December 15th, 2009
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I'd be specific as you can be anytime anyone discusses your sexual history with a partner. When it comes to sex people get very weird about details whether they're important or not.
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replied December 15th, 2009
okay thanks so much for all your help=] i feel more relieved
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replied April 30th, 2010
where i''m from, we know that loosing your virginity is when the penis enters the vagina. The hymen can break with any form of activity so that is not the means only for loosing it. I agree with previous comments, you''ve had sexual contact but you''re still a virgin. Lesbian activity is only foreplay or making love but they are virgins once a penis has never entered.

Remember, sometimes people need to go by the doctor to hav inside their vagina checked out so if it means anything going in their takes virginity then many many people can be considered non-virgins.

Don''t sweat it. You''re still a virgin.
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replied April 30th, 2010
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Penis in Vagina = Not virgin still seems a bit lopsided to me. That would mean that you could have had a 40 year career in pornography specializing in taking 14 inch gas-powered vibrators and still be a virgin. A lot of sex workers only offer oral and manual sex, would you consider someone that makes a living pleasuring men to be a virgin? At some point a technical definition of an ideal begins to loose it's relevance.

Your best approach to someone asking you if you're a virgin is to have them explain to you what they considder a virgin to be.
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replied September 10th, 2011
fingering can lose the blood of virginity?
i finger my Gf using my 2 fingers and im always doing it.. when she gev me permesion to lose her virginity and when i inserted my penis their is no blood came out from his vagina.. i think she lied to me that she's still a virgin..
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replied October 24th, 2012
my hymen broke with a tampon ...
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replied February 22nd, 2013
possibility of being pregnant
im just curious me and my bf enjoyed the night together. im still a virgin,. he tried putting his johnny on the surface of my organ but there is no deep penetration.. I am curious if ever I will get pregnant. ?
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