I'm a 30-year-old female and still a virgin. In fact, I've never even been in a relationship. What scares me is that my virginity is gonna scare off most men. Even if I lie and say that I've only had sex a couple of times in my life, they're still gonna figure it out by my body language, inexperience, what have you.
Also, I read that losing virginity at a later age is much more painful that losing it when you're still in your teens, and that if one starts to become sexually active at my age then it will be difficult to ever derive much pleasure froom sex. One gynec. said that late teens is the ideal age to lose it. Is it true?
I can't comment on what men will think or not. I and sure won't mind that you are still a virgin. It is unusual, but not a problem. You will pick up experience pretty quickly.
As long as you have been keeping fairly healthy and masturbated frequently, your vagina should be just fine, with the walls toned and functioning. The older you get, the more important regular sexual arousal and orgasms become to maintain a healthy vagina. You should also do some kegel exercises to maintain the tone of your pelvic floor muscles.
Enough lubrication and relaxation can do wonders during first time penetration. There is no reason to believe that you will have more difficulty than a teen girl. You might not even have much of your hymen left. Have you taken a mirror and looked at what is going on?
Thanks for the quick reply. Yes,i've taken a mirror and my hymen is partially intact. I masturbate regularly and work out a lot. Still, it's obviously not the same as being sexually active. I also read that at my age it's better to go to a doctor and have them break the hymen with medical instruments.
I am not sure where you are reading all this. I am sure it is well intentioned, but not accurate. After your estrogen surge during puberty, your hymen folded back on itself and thickened into a very elastic ring around the outside edge of your vaginal entrance. This was the last time your hymen changed due to something to do with age.
If you want to have a doctor remove it, do so. Masturbating with a dildo or vibrator will have the same effect. You can even use more and more fingers I'm your vagina while you rub your clitoris. If you want the name of some reliable online sources of sex toys in the USA, pm me.
It is normal to be apprehensive about your first time. Even more so at your age. There is however nothing to be afraid of. Every women goes through it, very very few have issues with their hymens, and even then, it is mostly due to an imperforate or septate hymen.
am nearly 30, a female and i am a muslim and my religion prohibits sex before marriage.Am still waiting for the right guy and i am very relaxed about my virginity although i have heard stories it will hurt the first time i have sex, don't know how true this is but am looking forward to the experience.
Hello I am 27 years old Virgin.I did not mastrubate for the previous 2 years because i moved to another country to work and I live with a family I have problems with my mood and low bloodpreasure aswell I;m very moody I am not sure if all this is related because I heard something about hormonal disballance.I have a boyfriend in 3rd country I went to see him 2 years ago we decided not to rush..I don;t know if it's just me but i think that this has an impact on my life and mood. My family insists me to stay here and work and study which will take a lot of time ..My boy wants me to go there. I'm really confused. My question is if i go and start having regular sexual life will this lead to more healthy and full life for me? Because I am scared to find out that I will still be moody and unhappy even then. PS i also noticed more intense hair growth on my body therefore i have to epilate much more often(I'm not sure if this is related) Also it's very important to me to ask what otehr abnormalities may be occured as a resault of that I;m not mastrubating. What impact can that have on my day to day life?
If you do not feel like masturbation, it means you do not have libido our urges to be satisfied? That is a problem as you are in your sexual prime yeasts now. What happens if you just masturbate anyways? Do you get an orgasm and feel satisfied?
Being in a bad mood can be from many things - not being satisfied with your life, being depressed, being unhappy, medicines, not sleeping enough, stress and yes, hormone changes. Can it be that you are feeling that you are missing out on love, life, sex and fun and pleasure?
What is your cycles and periods like? Hair growth can be a sign of high testosterone from ovarian cysts (PCOS).
It is advisable to start planning for a family if you want one. Don't wait too long. Your fertility goes into a step decline in the next few years. It does not become impossible to get pregnant, but every year it becomes more difficult.
I am a 31 year old virgin and I have never masturbated. I just got married to my boyfriend with whom I have relationship since 2 years. During our dating, he used to masturbate me once in 2 weeks.
Now, my fear is if we have sex will I get pregnant easily? or should I take some precautions?
i am 29 yrs old and still virgin. my family forcing me to get arranged marriage . but i am very scared to lose my virginity with someone stranger. somewhere i read women's hymen stretching naturally after getting older....
how much it will hurt and bleed during 1st time intercourse if i will get married after 30 ??
I just lost my virginity the other day at 38 1/2 years old. I had never been in a relationship and never even been kissed so the thought of sex was so overwhelming. It took me several months to banish most of that anxiety. The experience was far better than I was hoping for and honestly, it was with someone I had only known for a few weeks. I was slightly terrified about being that intimate with someone but the sex was very good. I did not feel awkward at all and I don't regret it now. The pain only lasted a brief moment and the experience was so intense that I actually injured my hip lol. I know it's only my experience but sex seemed to be so much better physically and emotionally because I waited until I really knew what I wanted.
Try being an almost 36 year old virgin. I've gotten close, almost was finally de-flowered before turning 29, but then the guy left before we went all the way. I have regular check-ups with my gyno and except having a shrinking cervix, I'm healthy. I used to masturbate often, mostly for the release, but I've really gotten tired of "stirring my own juices" so haven't in a long time. The hardest part for me is finding a man I am interested in and attracted to. Majority of the men near my age are married, unavailable, or they are are druggies/drunks etc. Not who I want to be with. Is there any kind of safe place where single virgins can meet up with a man, just so they can lose their virginity? I feel like I have a big V on my forehead.
I am 25 and still a virgin and have not even had my first kiss. I know how you feel, but not to the extent. The body language tells it all, yes you might have a big V on your forehead but that is nothing to be ashamed of. Lol I trip, fall, make dumb mistakes and I am learning to come to grips with it. I can't find a man I love or am interested in, they are all what you said they are, drunks, drug addicts or arrogant losers who "don't want women eating from the palms of their hands" I would rather just stay single and die a virgin then lose my virginity to a man I don't love. Don't go to a single club or whatever....just stay the way your and...and OWN it! Booya! When you meet that right man get married then have sex, nothing bad can come from it and you will have his respect for the rest of your lives together. Of course I am only 25 so I might change that point of view but I hope not. P.S I can pleasure myself at ALL, that is very frustrating.