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Q: Looking for a girlfriend

asked by: b67618195 on September 16th, 2009

New User

So I'm in highschool, second year and I'd really want to have a girlfriend. I'm an average looking guy. Why average? 'Cause I'm not to good-looking for girls to wink at me when I pass near one, or to get a girl easily to talk with me. And I'm also not "ugly" enough to make a girl laugh at me or to tell me to "go away" if I say hi.
I think my biggest disadvantage is that I'm a bit shy (ok, maybe a bit more) and I lack some confidence since it's a bit hard for me to approach a girl I like. I don't have problems of talking to simple girls, I mean just a girl-friend (I hope you know what I mean), but when approaching or talking with a girl I like, it's something way different for me...
At the moment there's a girl I like in school that I happen to see quite often just passing by, usually she's alone but I don't have the guts of approaching her since I'm afraid of being rejected.
I think the most difficult step for me is approaching & starting a conversation, since generally I can keep a conversation going.
The thing is I can't imagine myself approaching her and I also don't really know what I should start a conversation with... I mean simply saying "Hi, I'm ______ , how are you?" won't do.

I hope someone will have the patience to read everything above, and thank you for your time.

Replies(5)

ServiceU

replied on September 16th, 2009

Supporter

I am shy and we are of the small percentages, meaning there is more outspoken people vs. shy one.
sometimes we have to do things outside our comfort zone to get things done.
a women likes a man that is confident!
you can say the silliest thing just to make her notice you. but i think you should be blunt like many guys are with me.
You are very beautiful!
do you have a boyfriend?
what ever you say if you say one thing, that's the hardest after that everything comes natural.
guys that is outspoken get shot down, i shot them down everyday. but if they dont try they wont find the one that responds positively.
do you have an account with myspace, twitter, and facebook?

b67618195

replied on September 16th, 2009

New User

ServiceU wrote:

You are very beautiful!
do you have a boyfriend?

Are you serious? I mean isn't there a high probability that the answer will be smth like... "Huh?" and she'll walk away or "How would that be your concern?"

ServiceU wrote:

you can say the silliest thing just to make her notice you

The only time I see her is in the hall going to the next class or sometimes, with her classmates outside...

ServiceU wrote:

do you have an account with myspace, twitter, and facebook?

I don't get it, is that question addressed to me?

ServiceU

replied on September 16th, 2009

Supporter

i am a women, and that's what guys say to me to find out if i m single or not.
a guy said something silly to me making me laugh, and he got me out my bad mood.
i suggested those websites because it's a good way to meet nice people. if you are shy and you have your picture posted.....some women may ask can they be your friends. maybe having female friends, talking to them by internet will make you feel comfortable.
i was just trying to help, it was just a thought.

b67618195

replied on September 16th, 2009

New User

ServiceU wrote:

if you are shy and you have your picture posted.....some women may ask can they be your friends. maybe having female friends, talking to them by internet will make you feel comfortable.

As I wrote I don't seem to have problems talking with girls I have as just friends, but when it comes to talking to someone I like, that's something way different for me...

ServiceU wrote:

i was just trying to help

And I thank you for that

J3nnyuk

replied on October 6th, 2009

Moderator

Ok so you have friends that are girls but you are to shy to confront them and say hi how are you! So you need to do some confidence building exercises....try looking in your mirror at home or wherever (i know you might think its silly but trust me it works!)
try visualising the girl you like walking up to you and simply say hiya you ok?. thats the start..then try other questions like what you been up to lately anything interesting etc..you get my drift slowly you should be more confident to ask her face to face and if she responds perfect..even if she walks away after saying hi back thats ok cause we have got a start..and gradually bulid up the convos...hope this helps..jenny

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