ok guys i met this guy is is younger than
i am but we are goin out 2gether ..he live
very far from where i live ..we love each
other that i am afraid that the distance
wil keep us away. we communicate everyday
but stil i am no so sure if it would work
out wat u think ...
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OptimusMeow
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Joined: 13 Aug 2008 Posts: 11
Posted: 09-03-08 20:50pm
Well, back in high school I was dating
this guy who moved to a city about three
hours away, and we would visit about every
two weeks, but it was too hard and we
eventually broke up. It's very difficult
to maintain the same level of trust when
you're so far apart, but I mean I never
trusted him to begin with so maybe yours
will be different. Good luck!
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Mikolas
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Posted: 09-04-08 02:32am
Sorry to be the bearer of negative news,
but this is what I've accumulated as
collective data concerning long term
relationships over the years I've heard
girl friends upon girl friends upon girl
friends yacking on to poor ol me about.
If you guys started off as internet
friends or something of the sort with
minimal personal contact. You would have
very poor chances, it's hard trying to be
committed, when it feels like you are
single most of the day except when you are
on the phone/online with that person.
Assuming you guys are of a younger age
range, you'd be having tons of opportunity
seeing new people.
If he is around the age where he starts
college, or enters college, there is also
a minimal chance of things working out.
Pretty much for the same reason as above,
he is in a place where he has the
opportunity to meet hundreds of girls, its
going to be tough just trusting him. Being
a college student myself, I've known quite
a few number of girls who had their bfs
(fairly recent relationships) go far away
for college, I can't recall any of them
still being together.
I only know about one or two couples that
were high school sweet hearts and still
remain together despite having started off
in different colleges.
This is college life however, I don't know
what your situation is.
If you guys are adults, have careers and
have mentally settled down in the exciting
world of relationships, have been together
for quite a number of years, then I would
not be surprised if you guys can beat the
distance.
Don't dwell so much about the future, if
it doesn't work out, that is just fate,
the best thing you can do is try to enjoy
every bit as possible and make sure that
in the future, even if you are no longer
with him, you can look back at those
memories with a smile on your face.
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worrywart01
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Posted: 09-04-08 08:39am
i agree with mikolas..there are many
things working agaist you depending on the
situation however..if you know you wanna
be with this person and are willing to
WORK at the relationship then go for
it..and believe me..it is HARD...my
boyfriend and i had been dating 2 months
when I went back to college and he started
his freshman year of college(he's a year
younger than me)..i had MANY doubts about
us just because I knew how i was freshman
year...I didn't want any commitments bc I
didn't want to answer to anyone about
where i was going and what not...he came
to me and we had "the talk" bc though we'd
been dating for 2 months exclusively we
were never really official..anyway..we
decided to try things..see how it
went...it was a LONG 8 months of long
distance and the breaks never seemed long
enough...but...in the end things worked
out for us...we're still together now and
its been 2 1/2 years...but believe me..it
was work...and its so hard not being able
to sit and talk with someone in person
when you're having issues...but as i
said..if its what you both want...then it
can work out...but just expect some bumps
in the road
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bottledwater
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Posted: 09-04-08 11:14am
my frinds are dating, he goes to universiy
and lives on residence about 6h away. each
time i see her she is usually either
really angry at everyone, or sad/crying.
it really sucks to see her like this, but
they are still together and chat via msn
and webcam, as well as the phone.
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latingurl
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okk thanx Posted: 09-06-08 19:27pm
ok guys very much for ur advices wel up to
now we communicate everyday. and yesturday
he called me saying that he want to ask
for permission to my parents and want to
tel them that we are going out .he lives
almost lik 6 hours far from my home
town,but he comes to visit me like every 2
to 3 weeks . he says that he love me and
that he wont let no one nor d distance
separate us. i really hope things work out
between us ..