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Q: long-term relationship ?
asked by: latingurl on September 3rd, 2008
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ok guys i met this guy is is younger than i am but we are goin out 2gether ..he live very far from where i live ..we love each other that i am afraid that the distance wil keep us away. we communicate everyday but stil i am no so sure if it would work out wat u think ...
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OptimusMeow
replied on September 3rd, 2008
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Well, back in high school I was dating this guy who moved to a city about three hours away, and we would visit about every two weeks, but it was too hard and we eventually broke up. It's very difficult to maintain the same level of trust when you're so far apart, but I mean I never trusted him to begin with so maybe yours will be different. Good luck!
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Mikolas
replied on September 4th, 2008
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Sorry to be the bearer of negative news, but this is what I've accumulated as collective data concerning long term relationships over the years I've heard girl friends upon girl friends upon girl friends yacking on to poor ol me about.

If you guys started off as internet friends or something of the sort with minimal personal contact. You would have very poor chances, it's hard trying to be committed, when it feels like you are single most of the day except when you are on the phone/online with that person. Assuming you guys are of a younger age range, you'd be having tons of opportunity seeing new people.

If he is around the age where he starts college, or enters college, there is also a minimal chance of things working out. Pretty much for the same reason as above, he is in a place where he has the opportunity to meet hundreds of girls, its going to be tough just trusting him. Being a college student myself, I've known quite a few number of girls who had their bfs (fairly recent relationships) go far away for college, I can't recall any of them still being together.

I only know about one or two couples that were high school sweet hearts and still remain together despite having started off in different colleges.

This is college life however, I don't know what your situation is.

If you guys are adults, have careers and have mentally settled down in the exciting world of relationships, have been together for quite a number of years, then I would not be surprised if you guys can beat the distance.

Don't dwell so much about the future, if it doesn't work out, that is just fate, the best thing you can do is try to enjoy every bit as possible and make sure that in the future, even if you are no longer with him, you can look back at those memories with a smile on your face.
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worrywart01
replied on September 4th, 2008
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i agree with mikolas..there are many things working agaist you depending on the situation however..if you know you wanna be with this person and are willing to WORK at the relationship then go for it..and believe me..it is HARD...my boyfriend and i had been dating 2 months when I went back to college and he started his freshman year of college(he's a year younger than me)..i had MANY doubts about us just because I knew how i was freshman year...I didn't want any commitments bc I didn't want to answer to anyone about where i was going and what not...he came to me and we had "the talk" bc though we'd been dating for 2 months exclusively we were never really official..anyway..we decided to try things..see how it went...it was a LONG 8 months of long distance and the breaks never seemed long enough...but...in the end things worked out for us...we're still together now and its been 2 1/2 years...but believe me..it was work...and its so hard not being able to sit and talk with someone in person when you're having issues...but as i said..if its what you both want...then it can work out...but just expect some bumps in the road
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bottledwater
replied on September 4th, 2008
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my frinds are dating, he goes to universiy and lives on residence about 6h away. each time i see her she is usually either really angry at everyone, or sad/crying. it really sucks to see her like this, but they are still together and chat via msn and webcam, as well as the phone.
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latingurl
replied on September 6th, 2008
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okk thanx
ok guys very much for ur advices wel up to now we communicate everyday. and yesturday he called me saying that he want to ask for permission to my parents and want to tel them that we are going out .he lives almost lik 6 hours far from my home town,but he comes to visit me like every 2 to 3 weeks . he says that he love me and that he wont let no one nor d distance separate us. i really hope things work out between us ..
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