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Q: Long term anxiety

asked by: sootica on October 25th, 2009

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Hello all, i've been suffereing from anxiety since i was a kid, has gradually worsened since my teens am 29 now and is at it's worst ever. I have had tough times at home and relationship problems, but as I am unable to put life on hold and pause time I need to be able to cope day to day and at the moment i'm not coping well at all. The anxiety I have is related mostly to personal relationships and worrying "what if" usually based on trust issues or a fear of loss. Sometimes the anxiety is based on a genuine concern or at least a possibility of one but is about events I can't do anything to control or predict, the worrying puts pressure on a partner and pushes them away.

I've tried herbal remedies, CBT, counselling, self help, relaxation techniques, exercise, distracting myself from the anxiety by doing something eg; read, cook, watch tv, having a bath etc. I've been on Effexor, tried both trycyclic anti depressants and SSRIs, one of which, citalopram I was on for 5 years and it didn't help me control the anxiety I get at all. I've tried vallium and lorazapam and also the anti psychotic seroquel.
I am very poor as can't work due to condition let alone build a career and so can't afford long term private therapy or to go on holiday or book in for alternative therapies like massage or even spend money on activities like cinema or going to the hairdressers etc.
I live in the UK. Has anyone experienced similar problems where their long term anxiety hasn't been helped by what's suggested by professionals? My doctors don't know what to do with me anymore, last year I took an overdose and was hospitalised because I am so sick of anxiety ruining things, I feel I have no quality of life and am losing hope for my future. Please give me your thoughs, Sarah baffle

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the3bears

replied on October 26th, 2009

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Stop fighting the anxiety.We want to push away bad feelings.
Accept them. Try mindful meditation. Breath in saying so and breath out saying hum (mentally to yourself, through the nose).Any feelings that arise, accept them,they are just feelings. You can label them
such as this is sadness this is anger.Notice sensations and where they are coming from. When your mind wonders gently bring it back to the meditation. Remember your OK!!!!!!

sootica

replied on October 29th, 2009

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Hi, thank you I will keep trying this, I know practice is supposed to make it easier. I have already attempted these techniques over the years - just completely lose it in some situations and I feel I have no conscious control just scream and react, then I 'come to' and really regret it. It just seems to take over without warning which is really frightening scared

, is almost like a fit in that respect (except obviously it's not a fit). Thanks again for your help, appreciate it, will keep trying to crack this!

nichkris1

replied on November 1st, 2009

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Hi, I have alot of these same problems over the years. I have been told that I have generalized anxiety disorder. Sometimes are worse than others. I feel out of control and always worrying what if. I finally decided to get really close to god and I dont know if you are relegious are not but that really seems to help. I have a relationship with god now that I have never had before and things are looking up more than not. I still try to go back to those horrible days but I just remember to keep going forward and always remember that god is right there with me all the way... I hope this might help a little bit..Whatever you do dont give up because I wanted to so many times but kept going for the sake of my kids.

sootica

replied on November 4th, 2009

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Hi, thanks for your post, regrettably i'm not very spiritual, used to be more so, but I guess I still take comfort in nature and the universe even if i've lost a lot of faith in other ways over the years. Thank you for your words, made me think, hope you're doing ok, sootica ^_^

nichkris1

replied on November 18th, 2009

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Hi, I have my days trust me...Sometimes I wander if this will go away. I take 3 different medicines for anxiety and panic attacks. But sometimes wonder if any of it works anymore. I just keep on keeping my faith on God becuase I know without that I will get no where. I have always believed in god and prayed but never appreciated him or excepted that he does answer my prayers and he is there to listen. The problem was I was not listening to him. He was sending me signs all the time but I was not paying attention to them. Now I have got alot closer to him because I just want my life back so that I can enjoy my kids. I could not make it every day without him now. It is so inspiring just to wake up every morning and have that relationship with him and knowing that he is there with me every minute...You should really try this and see how it goes. It doesnt get any easier for sure without him...

Vicana13

replied 16 hours and 6 minutes ago

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I had issues like that . I took control of my life. I defeated it. Avoid reading symptoms all day. That boxes you in. I caught my self reading Into things and made it worse for myself. Go out communicate withothers. Go for walks and breathe the fresh air. Avoid being in dark roo
s . Believe it or not dark rooms add to your problems. Let the light in. Relax don't worry about cost. There are lots of things you can do without spending money. Walk in the malls and make eye contact with people and say hello. That will help you get out of the dark stage. It took me months and was not easy.I felt the same way. I was in the hospital every other time thinking I was sick , hurt etc. I notice all my money was going to medication etc. I went to places I never been to and it help me alot. Find the light avoid the dark rooms it makes it worst. I hope you get well soon

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