long distance love

Hi ,

I don't if i'm in the right forum but i noticed other people had posted about this subject and i' m desperate for advice.

I have been in a long distance relationship for 3 years!! We met on an online dating agency 3 years ago. He lived in Northern Ireland (he is irish) and pursued me on the website. I knew it was a bit bonkers but he looked so lovely and was so sweet in his emails and on the phone, i decided to go and meet him. It turned out he was the man of my dreams. Totally gorgeus looking, extremely sensitive and with the same sense of humour as me. I had to see him again so he visited me a month later. I realised very quickly i was in love with him and told him so, after a bit of thinking he said he felt the same. We started seeing each other twice a month at weekends and had holidays together. Sometimes we managed 3 times a month. It hasn't all been plain sailing, we've had many ups and downs due to probably the distance. I found it hard to trust him at first and was constantly wondering where he was, who he was with etc! We broke up a couple of times due to my insecurities ( which other people say is natural in our situation). At one point he managed to move to england for 3 months due to his job and it was heaven. But then he had to go back. I was devastated! We've got to a point in our relationship where we get on so well. He is very different to me in a lot of ways, but we totally connect.

The problem is we've discussed a few times the fact i find it more difficult than him to do the ldr thing. I'm 29 and feel as if all my friends are settled down with partners and I get extremely lonely. I don't think he totally understands this. He has a lot more friends than me and is out most nights. Whereas i'm more insular and perhaps more particular about my friends and don't go out as much. I cannot move to ireland as i'm training to be a nurse and would find it extremely difficult to study in ireland due to finances etc. He doesn't want to move to england due to his job and the fact he is close to his family, has lots of friends and loves ireland. We have roughly agreed that if we're still together once i qualify (in two years), I will move! This means another two more years of travelling twice a month and being apart the majority of the time. Most of the time i manage but this week he told me he was moving in with his bestfriend. Which is fair enough but i thought that should be us! Will it ever happen? I love him to death and feel that maybe i put more importance on the relationship than he does. I know he loves me absolutely loads. But i keep thinking if he really really did, why doesn't he sacrifice everything and move? But is that fair to think that? I'm at my wits end and have been in tears for the last few days trying to work out what to do. I know that i love him more than anything in the world but the fact that he doesn't seem to miss me as much as i miss him and need to be with me, sometimes makes me doubt if he loves me enough. Is it reasonable to say he should move for me? i just don't know if i can take another two years of this, but i know he's the one. please please would love to have some advice here, feel totally lost and alone with this