My hubby is addicted to alnalgesic calmatives (codeine). He was hit by a car three years ago and has been on them for "migraines" which I don't believe he still has ever since. He mainly speaks with his mother which in this case isn't the best thing for him as she does exactly the same thing and even supplies him with her prescription drugs. They both know better as they were both registered nurses but do it anyway.

We have seen doctors, I have confronted him, I have created a non confrontational environment to try to encourage him to speak to me about it of his own accord. I have kept all the packaging from the drugs and shown him what it is he is taking. I have offered to find help for him. I have changed his diet and encouraged him to drink more water and exercise in the hope a healthier life style will lessen the frequency & intensity of his "migraines". I have spoken to him about cutting down his consumption slowly. We have tried to see a counsellor but he just won't come to the party. I have tried to encourage aternative forms of pain & stress relief. I have called addiction hotlines and gone to groups for families of addicts. I have called the chemists he goes to to find out more information and see if there is anything that can be done from their end to limit the amount he buys. I don't know what else to do.

We have a 3month old daughter and he leaves these things laying around.
I have told him how I feel and the reasons I want him to get help. I have tried to get him to go out and do stuff with his friends and meet people and tried to encourage him to find a hobby or something to keep his mind off the feeling that he "needs" these pills.

1-I don't want our baby getting a hold of the tablets.
2-I don't want her to grow up thinking that pills fix everything and that it is normal to abuse substances.
3-I don't want her to think that lying to the people you love or that lying full stop is the right thing to do.

That brings me to another problem...a problem within a problem.

He tries to hide it and lies blatantly to my face despite the evidence is sitting right there and staring him in the face. I don't hink I can be in a relationship with no trust. I have reached the point where I can see no other solution but to remove myself and our daughter from the situation and leave.

I am at a loss for what to do next other than leave so if anyone has any better advice or any suggestions please share. I am happy to hear any thoughts on the matter no matter how small. They could be very helpful to me and my family.

Cheers

Becky