Relationships and Marriage Forum - Living with a selfish wife!!!

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My wife and I have two boys and I do almost everything in the house. I pay all the bills, I prepare breakfast and lunch for the children 90% of the time and dinner 85% of the time, she prepares a full meal twice a month on average and gets the children to school. She has a constant belligerent attitude it is almost as if she thinks that she can intimidate me.....the best times are when she leaves for the day and I am alone with the children once she gets in the mood changes. Unfortunately I am completely turned off by her and totally resent her I only tolerate her because of my boys I know I am rambling but I have felt this way for the last five years. I feel trapped as though each day I lose a bit of my life. She has a business that occupies her time even on Sundays but to date the family as not benefited from it as I foot 99% of all family expenses. She is so irresponsible that she does not even have life insurance and contributes zero to the boys education fund. I dont know how to get out of the relationship I am worried about the children....!!!

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ServiceU

replied on May 26th, 2009

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i m going to give you the advice that no one else will. if you dont like it pretend it's food.
as a christian, my bible tells us that the only way of divorce is by adultery. you may separate from her, but i really thing you should give your marriage a try. for example have you ever went to counseling.

have you ever tired to talk to her about how you feel w/o being angry.

i know how hard it can be when it looks like only one partner is trying and the other is not.
does your wife work a lot and that's why she doesn't do anything, or when she's home she could do more but don't.

i think you really need to talk to her about every thing from the kids, to her business, health insurance, etc.

kdlee

replied on May 30th, 2009

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I agree with Service U..Don't put it off..Your health and welfare and children depend on getting this family strong..Are you a christian yourself?

If after councling or she refuses then you will need to take another direction..Does she know how you feel? You need to talk with someone in counceling regardless..

I have to ask do you not have life insurance on both of you? I made sure my husband and I each have a policy on each of us..Are you all seaparate in all you do? DO you have separate accounts? I know some people that do this I gotta admit I don't understnad but if it works..Problem is though that if anything happened to her you would have to take care of arrangements and it can be expenisve..Maybe you should take out a small policy just cause..

breck08

replied on June 2nd, 2009

Supporter

I concur with kdlee and serviceu, unless adultery is an issue try counseling. Not to defend your wife but she didnt take charge and get where she is over night. No one can intimidate you unless you give them that power over you. It sounds like she has embraced the modern women in the business world? You two fell in love, married, and had children in this marriage. Find the spark and rekindle it. Just like it took years for your marriage to be in the position it is now it will take just as much time to get it back to being healthy. Have faith Smile

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