I am a 22 year old lesbian, i came out 4 years ago and have a daughter of 5 years old. I always swore i would never get into a relationship with a bi-sexual woman because i didnt want to feel inadequate, but a year and a half ago i fell in love with my current girlfriend, who is bi-sexual. She has never had a serious relationship with a guy and has been in two long term relationships with women. She has always reassured me that i have no worries about her leaving me for a guy, but there's a few things that have made me paranoid. We were talking a few months ago about having a child together, and when i mentioned the cost and finding a donor, she seemed to think that we would do it by her actually havinig sexual intercourse with a guy and was dissappointed that i was naturally uncomfortable with this. She has also mentioned that she has fantasies of me and her having a threesome with a guy, which i suppose is to be expected from a bisexual person, but i have just been on the history on the computer and lastnight she was watching threesomes on a porn site.. none of which involved more than one woman. It is starting to make me feel inadequate and i dont quite know how to deal with it. I am madly in lovve with her and we have a lovely house and life together, but i cant help think that she wants sex with men. I have even been considdering letting her do it just to get it out of her system. Some advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
Thats complex. Honestly, your girlfriend wouldn't stop liking both men and women as she is bisexual. But you being a little more casual and not thinking too seriously about your relationship might help. But, since you said your are deeply in love with her, i think it'll be hard.
This is so difficult. I understand your concern and it is valid. I was with my bisexual partner for 15 years. She assured me that she would never leave me for a guy. Unfortunately, she has done just that. I'm heartbroken. You cannot control life. There are no guarantees and that is so hard to live with. I'd love to give you assurances but that would be a disservice to you. Enjoy the time you have with her knowing that you cannot be assured a life forever with her.