TOS,
Sorry about all of your problems.
You have a very complex problem. You only mention three of your seven surgeries on your upper extremity. So, you have a lot more going on than what you mention in your post.
It sounds like you have reached the limit of what your current surgeon is comfortable taking care of.
So, if you are not better by May, then you will most likely have to see the specialist in Denver.
But, if surgery is recommended, by sure that it is for something that is correctable. Not just for "well, let's do the surgery and see what happens", type of surgery. Those types of surgery, usually just lead to more hematomas, scar tissue, and post-op problems.
Again, sorry about all of your troubles. You have a very complex set of problems. It is probably going to take someone well versed in those problems to figure out exactly what the problem is.
Good luck.