My husband used to be self employed until his business had to close. I work full time - sometimes up to 60 hours a week at a very stresful job that is laying off people left and right.

He lays around the house, won't even take the dogs out or feed them unless I tell him to, the house is a mess and all he ever does is wash dishes. He will only go to the store for groceries if I tell him what to buy - and I have to tell him what to cook for dinner - if he cooks at all. He may apply for one job a week and then waits for them to call or for a rejection letter before he applies for another. The house is in his name, but I'm paying for everything. BTW - He also plays computer games several hours a day.

We've been together 23 years - not married, but have a 21 year old son. For the first 13 years we were together he worked full time and I went to school for my degree (I'm paying for it), raised our son, volunteered, and took care of the books for his business. Now he brings up that he supported me all those years and I should support him - and I wouldn't mind so much being broke all the time if the house was in order and he made some sort of effort.